The main mistake in attitude toward money. How to relate to money the right way so it’s always there.
You’ve built up a certain negativity, difficulty, or heavy responsibility when it comes to money, and you ask yourself: “How do I form my own relationship to it?” If you think from the position of “I’m running away from money,” you’re literally creating distance between yourself and financial opportunities. As a result, in any systems, contracts, business, professional activity, or your personal work, you’ll be “running away” from this topic. This energy is felt at the level of interaction. You start “avoiding” the subject, and it affects not only you but also your family and the people with whom you discuss it.
And in this case, you’ll make mistakes. Mistakes will come up in contracts, in working with clients, and in how you manage and spend money. There are three aspects worth mentioning here.
- If you’re meant to earn a large sum or simply receive money, it will still come to you — regardless of how you feel about it. This is important to remember. There are people to whom money comes even if they don’t know how to deal with it at all. They didn’t know before and probably never will. Yet, money still appears for them. I call this “luck.” I often say that there is money that comes specifically along the line of luck, and it’s important to notice and separate this from other sources.
- Money can come as the result of your work — through simple but systematic actions. In this case, it’s important to focus clearly: everywhere you apply your labor, you must technically and schematically define the procedure of dealing with money. How much do you charge for a specific contract or job? What are the conditions? These criteria need to be fixed in writing with the other party, whether it’s an employment agreement or another contract. And one more thing: forbid yourself from adding any emotionality to this process. If there are agreements “A,” then task “B” is to fulfill them on your side. At the same time, remember that the other side may not stick to these agreements. In that case, the only thing you can do is return to the original list of agreements “A.” Don’t invent new conditions, don’t look for advice like “what to do if the person acted like this” if it’s not written in the agreements. If the points aren’t in the list, then something will simply happen.
- When you live in a state of strong denial of money, feeling negativity toward it and basically pushing it away, it’s important to see the truth of what’s happening. Sometimes your income in such a state is only the result of luck. And this needs to be honestly admitted.
So the first point helps you open your eyes and see the reality that it’s luck. The second point allows you to focus on not losing the money earned through your own work. After all, you work and put in effort, and that’s exactly why it’s crucial to act strictly according to the agreements, without adding any emotional states. Absolutely none!
I recently filmed a video where I said: “Make your main task at work that I work only to earn money.”
“…it’s incredibly important to focus on the fundamental mindset: your main task is to earn money. As soon as a person adds extra conditions to the goal ‘earn money’ — like ‘and it should be fun,’ ‘and my mood should always be good,’ or ‘and I should enjoy work so much that I don’t need rest,’ — they fall into a trap. This ‘interest’ in work becomes a filter through which all decisions are made. In a situation where it’s important to act rationally and based on financial results, the person begins automatically and often unconsciously checking: ‘Do I find this interesting or not? Is this right or wrong for my inner state?’
You’re not focusing on the simple and obvious from the start. A manager comes and gives you an assignment. The first thoughts that should click automatically: “If I do this project, will it increase my income? Will it let me earn more? Will it strengthen my position and eventually lead to income growth?”
That kind of filter cuts out the unnecessary. But in practice, instead of a direct answer, you start thinking:
— “Do I agree with the manager?”
— “Do I like the task itself?”
— “Why did he even come up with this?”
Instead of just doing and closing the project, you drift into thoughts like “interesting–not interesting,” “like–don’t like.” And it really matters. A person starts doing so-called “self-development,” often very relative. It’s not development for results, but rather work for their ego. The person focuses only on themselves and not on the core goal they came into the company with — to earn money. That’s one side. On the other, if a person can easily move past their psycho-physical, emotional, generational, or even karmic barriers, they open up a totally different position — the ability to truly help the company…”
I recommended this to my friend: “Set the focus!” You need to set a focus in your work that all the projects and tasks you do are done only for money. Not for creativity, not for personal joy, not for development, not for a great emotional state, not for uplift, not for happiness — only to earn money. “For money I will do the work you need.”
The third story worth paying attention to is watching what really comes up inside you, what decision arises. And constantly hold onto that decision. If you really remember and hold onto this decision about money, you’ll remove 90% of worries in this area — for yourself and for others. And when worries around you decrease, money automatically starts coming, because the world works exactly this way. You need to realize the truth. Truly realize the truth.
When I say that you earn money thanks to luck, it inevitably triggers a specific inner state. On one side, apathy may appear, because the thought “I’m not a professional” can devalue your effort. On the other, aggression may arise: “How come? I’m working hard, doing a huge amount of work, and you’re saying it’s just luck.” These two states will show up. Don’t suppress them, don’t push them away, don’t muffle them. Same with the feeling of fear of money — you don’t need to run from it.
Imagine that this state is part of your life. Like a birthmark — you can try to cut it out, remove it with a laser, go through tons of procedures, but the risk of blood infection or creating new problems remains. Or freckles: you can resent them all you want, but they’ll keep appearing. You can cover them, do surgeries, but the essence won’t change. You just need to observe it.
Many people in their relationship with money try to live someone else’s life, create illusions, look for “secrets.” I suggest a different path. Your life is unique. For many, you’re already a rich and well-off person, living in California, in Silicon Valley, in good conditions. For some, your lifestyle is “luxury”: good space, quality food, surrounded by successful people.
But there’s always a difference depending on where the comparison comes from. Always. That’s the key point. So instead of chasing other people’s options that aren’t meant for you, it’s important to understand how your life is actually built. And this is possible only through expanding your perception and discovering yourself.
It’s a very complex topic — what it is, how it’s done, where it “is.” Someone might ask: “Can I read about it? Maybe ask GPT? Or find a book? Some guy said here…” But this isn’t about that. You can only discover yourself by yourself, and it’s unknown with which exact tool it will happen.
What do you think about this: how do you see yourself, what do you know about yourself? And one more important question: do you have problems with money?