#spirituality #selfdevelopment #personaltransformation
How can a person truly scale?
– I really love combining, integrating different topics. One of the points that you liked is this: “Nothing is more important than anything else.”
– Nothing can be more important than anything else. It’s a really interesting statement. I can’t say I’ve ever heard it or rely on it, but it resonates with me: everything that happens in life is life. And if it’s an element of life, then how can we set priorities? I’m talking about choosing a priority in a very real, non-illusory sense, like “if you’re dying, you can’t eat.” Of course, in that situation, you’d choose to save your life. But here, we’re discussing how to feel balanced for a lifetime, not just “here and now” for the next step.
I’m talking about how a person can truly, genuinely scale – not scaling for just a day or an hour. Not scaling for a quick result in two weeks. True scaling is when you understand and feel your whole life: your family, business, professional activities, hobbies, joys, and sorrows; within your life, you are free, with love for others, able to make the right decisions... Always, regardless of the moment, staying in a state of awareness – this leads to real scaling.
Who should you get close to, and who shouldn’t you? (and why this is the wrong question)
– If you’re truly living life and striving for truth, at some point, you come to realize that nothing is more important than anything else. Another very valuable point is that genuine closeness with another person is one of the most important things. And even separation will be easier if you genuinely connect with that person.
– The thing is, many people subconsciously block themselves because they’re afraid of conflict, which often revolves around separation.
– It’s like someone thinking, “If I buy a bike, it might get stolen, and I’ll be upset, so I won’t buy it.” Relationships with people are different. It’s not possession, so it works differently... But there are partnerships where you just breeze past each other: hired employees, rented an office, did something together, and parted ways calmly. I returned the office, employees were let go. The question is: should you invest in relationships with temporary employees in minor things? Then maybe parting with them will be easier and won’t cause any issues.
Non-selective love: how we lead ourselves to relationship degradation
– When you start choosing where to put effort into building partnerships, you essentially start choosing who’s a “good” person and who’s “bad.” You put yourself above others. It’s a completely inauthentic story. It’s like saying, “I’ll help my child more because they’re mine, rather than a stranger,” “I’ll do more for this person because they’re my boss, and I’ll partner more strongly with this person because they might bring me more money.” “And here’s a small partnership; why should I spend time on it?” or “I’ll interact with them just a little, smile at them three times, but smile ten times at someone else.”
There’s no real personal scaling if you start choosing who to help and who not to. You can’t show genuine love selectively: either it naturally happens for everyone, or it doesn’t happen at all. Can it happen spontaneously? Yes, sometimes it can be spontaneous, accidental. But I didn’t choose it: to show a state of love toward one person and not toward another; to help this person and not that one; to invest in a relationship here to truly get to know someone but not in another case. It’s a bit of a selfish motive. There could also be a motive like, “I’ll bond more with my employees now so it’ll be easier to manipulate them later.” For example, to make them quit on their own or work a lot. But those are all manipulations, driving relationships toward degradation. It’s not about developing relationships in a way that scales you as a person.
Energy exchange
I’m not saying you shouldn’t do it in a social sense. We live in a social world with rules. Often, you hire an employee who says, “You pay me, and then I’ll do it.” And you exchange energy in that way. But we don’t live in a world where people directly feel how much energy is worth.
For example, I have a private club. Right now, the price is $120 a month, but I understand that, for some in this club, it should be $5,000 a month, while for others – $120. But I can’t set different prices, so there’s an average.
And then the question is: how does each person feel it? Because trading energy and predicting future events in 10-20 years based on money is a mistake. How can we assess what it impacted?
People are used to short-term thinking: back pain, went to the osteopath, he helped, felt better. Maybe the osteopath removed a trauma that would’ve made you slip this year, break your spine, and end up disabled for life... But because people don’t see these patterns, cause-effect connections, they’re unaware. They don’t even think about them, so they exchange energy incorrectly.
And very often, a leader with their employees, or partners with each other, do an incorrect energy exchange. Because they start calculating: “I gave you more, or less…” But in true love, there’s no concept of calculation, limits, or ending in the sense of “I give love, and at some point, decide it’s enough love for this person.” That can’t be. There’s no such thing as “enough love.” It doesn’t exist. You can’t give a person more love than they need.