Questions to ask yourself if you feel lost and don’t know what to do next.
You wake up in the morning and it feels like the day hasn’t really begun. A state of heaviness, apathy, anxiety. Everything resembles Groundhog Day: you live, but you don’t feel life. At lunch, a strange thought might hit—“what kind of day is this, where is it going?”—and by evening you realize the day has already passed. If you recognize this state, stop here. This is the first and most important step.
The most valuable thing that follows: you can come out of this state with the help of questions—not advice, not ready-made solutions, but your own questions to yourself. If you follow the whole path I will describe, by tomorrow you may already feel in a completely different state.
Why is it important to ask questions?
People often formulate answers the way they want them to be—comfortable, pretty, desirable. That’s how the psyche works. That’s why when we look for answers, we risk getting even more confused. But when we learn to ask the right questions, it is precisely that which initiates change.
It’s very important to understand: the goal is not to immediately solve the problem—lack of money, joy, emotions, meaning. The goal is to enter a different inner state through the questions. If you focus not on finding the perfect answer but on the practice of asking questions itself, the right answers will start to come naturally.
The first and main question
What is the cause of this state? Why does it arise?
This is the question you need to keep asking yourself.
And here’s an important clarification: the cause is not that you have too little money or too much, good parents or bad, a rich country or a poor one, one job or fifteen. None of this is the direct cause.
The most important thing is to admit that you don’t know the real cause. Because if you did, the state could not exist. So the first step: ask yourself this question—and honestly say: “I don’t know the answer.” It is precisely this that opens the space for movement.
The following questions
This series of questions is a tool you need to walk through step by step.
Question № 2. Who am I?
Question № 3. Why do such events happen in my life?
Question № 4. Do I understand that in a year events may happen outside of my plan and outside of my control?
Question № 5. Do I understand that I do not control life and time?
Question № 6. Do I realize that I am absolutely unique and that there is no other person like me in the whole world?
Question № 7. Do I understand that I am just as ordinary a person as anyone else, and everyone deserves respect just as I do?
Question № 8. Do I realize that every person is free to act as they see fit—even if it’s destructive, dishonest, or against the laws of the universe?
Question № 9. Do I live by the laws of the Universe?
Question № 10. Do I realize these laws daily and truly follow them?
Question № 11. Looking back at yesterday, did I think of people with kindness? Did I wish them no harm? Did I avoid deceiving anyone?
Question № 12. Did I create an illusion yesterday morning of a perfect day where I would accomplish absolutely all my plans and tasks?
Question № 13. Am I honest with my loved ones—with my parents, children, partner? Can I openly discuss with them at least half of the important questions?
Question № 14. Am I ready today to watch throughout the day that my words do not harm others?
Question № 15. Am I ready to sincerely listen to others, to try to understand and figure out what they are saying?
Question № 16. Am I ready to hear and accept opinions different from my own?
Question № 17. Am I ready to admit that I have never truly lived by the principle of studying, analyzing, and discovering myself?
Question № 18. Do I know myself at least 1%?
What happens if you go through these questions
When you reach the end, emptiness, pain, apathy, or even helplessness may arise. This is normal. It means you have come closer to the point of restoration.
Resistance may appear, an inner argument, a desire to justify yourself, to find a ready-made answer, to distract yourself, to run to your phone. But that is precisely the moment of truth.
If you can stay in the process and ask yourself these questions every day for at least a week (no matter what answers come, or if none come at all)—you will make a huge step forward.
Final observation
We always want to move forward quickly. “Can I make more progress in a week than ever before?” Draw before you a segment of 40 years of life. Do you really want to be speeding up all the time? Or one week of acceleration, and then peace? But what is peace—absence of change or movement in harmony?
That’s where the depth lies: by asking yourself questions, you learn not just to look for a way out of a situation, but to enter a different state—more calm, clear, and alive.