Why Do People Avoid the Truth?
When you realize that someone is genuinely digging deep into the essence of what’s happening and knows the answer, a common reaction is to block them out.
People stop listening to that person, avoid meeting them, stop watching their videos, stop reading their books, and generally cease all contact. It’s an automatic block because they know that every time they engage with this person, they will hear the truth.
Take business as an example: Many business owners avoid sitting down together to address financial matters. They often say things like, “This isn’t necessary for us; it’s not interesting. I have financial directors or managers to handle that.” Essentially, they don’t want to deal with things that reveal the truth. Many claim, “I’m a creative, non-systematic person, so I don’t do analytics.” Yet even when presented with numbers, they refuse to look at them because they don’t understand what they mean.
People don’t want to know the truth. They don’t want to genuinely ask their mother what she thinks or hear their father’s opinions. They avoid talking to siblings, friends, or anyone close. Even if those people are selfish or incapable of providing fresh insights, there is still a resistance to confronting the truth.
How Can You Learn to Make the Right Decisions on Your Own?
I’m not someone who offers step-by-step actions like “1, 2, 3, 4.” Instead, I help shift thought patterns so that people can make their own decisions. This approach reflects a deeper truth: only the individual can make the right decisions for themselves. Only they bear responsibility for those decisions.
The reason we delay important decisions is simple: when you’re in a state of uncertainty, weakness, or suffering, you’re not ready to decide. By experiencing those feelings and calmly discussing them, you can reach a mental state that allows you to tune in to what’s happening around you. Developing the ability to make the right decisions independently—rather than relying on others—isn’t separate from this process.
Why Are We Afraid to Ask Simple Questions?
We often avoid asking simple questions because we fear confronting reality. For instance, basic questions like “What should I do? What should I buy? How do I find a client?” remain unanswered. We sidestep them because we’re unprepared to face the truths these questions uncover.
Consider tasks that seem trivial, like emailing an accountant or understanding your health insurance plan. These don’t demand extraordinary effort, yet it’s in these simple matters that we encounter our own fears and insecurities.
How Can You Know What’s Right and What’s Wrong?
A fundamental question many ask is: How can I know what’s right and what’s wrong? When you ask yourself this, you place yourself in a state of observation. You stop assuming you know everything in your life better than anyone else. You step off the hamster wheel of constant motion and realize that you always have time to reflect.
Asking yourself this question is a crucial aspect of personal growth. You’ll never find a definitive answer. But if you approach the question knowing that it’s unanswerable, it becomes a pathway to development. You begin to breathe differently, to feel, and to truly live your life.
The Illusion of Progress in Modern Society
There’s an illusion today that you’re suffering now, but things will eventually get better. That’s not true. Things might be good now and worse later—or you might suffer now and continue to suffer later. It’s important to abandon illusions and stop deceiving yourself.
People who resist the truth avoid serious individuals and refuse to acknowledge their own inadequacies. This behavior is rooted in ego.
Ego is an endless topic. Anyone who thinks they’ve mastered their ego is deeply mistaken. The ego is fused with a person’s identity, and modern individuals can hardly exist without it.
Observation Is the Key to Personal Growth
Observation is the cornerstone of scaling your personality and developing yourself. Without observation, growth is impossible. The more you observe, the more correct actions you’ll begin to take.