Pay attention to the fact that when the topic of energy vampires comes up, people never place themselves in that category. And here’s an important aspect—who do we actually perceive as a vampire? If we look at it generally, all people have certain traits that can be attributed to vampirism. What is vampirism? Vampirism is, in essence, a situation where one person takes energy from another and does not give anything back, feeding on the energy of others.
The greatest problem of modern humanity over the past 150 years is that people have forgotten how to live in a balance of energy, and they no longer perceive or understand what true energy is.
For example, if I sold a course, it costs “this much,” or maybe less, and someone still owes me, or it’s worth more and then I owe something in return. Have I given enough or not enough? If I’m doing something in the family during the day, how are we going to measure that energy? In what units do we express it? In hours?
People have learned to calculate energy and value in terms of money, but beyond that, there’s nothing. So it turns out that if a man earns five thousand dollars a month and a woman earns five million dollars a month, then the man should spend an hour with the children, and the woman—fifteen days. That’s the kind of logic that appears.
The main topic of energy vampirism is to acknowledge it within yourself and look at the moments when every person in different situations does this. Many parents, in fact, feed energetically off their own children. This primarily happens because they don’t understand and don’t know how the process of energetic exchange works. The essence is not that you simply give and take. If you look at it as a whole, there is no clarity on how to receive an equal exchange and how to feel it. “Give–take” is not a linear construction and not some simple parameter. It’s a volume of something that takes part in different processes. As a rule, we don’t always give in one place and take the same amount back in the same place. It’s a cycle that then redistributes itself further. Calculating it is very difficult—it requires listening to the world, balance, and harmony. There are always situations where people either only take or only give.
And there is no problem in that. Moreover, if we look at true human development and say that a human being should basically be in service to other people and to the world, then they are not there in order to replenish themselves, but simply because they are meant to be in service. And here there are certain contradictions—pay attention: on one hand, there’s the balance of energy; on the other, a person is in service. And in service there is no position of receiving.
A person sets a task for themselves: to help only those people who do not drain all their energy. If we say that we help everyone, regardless of how that person exchanges energy in the world, we still end up singling people out. And here our ego is hidden—you think that someone owes you something. And here is the whole paradox: on the one hand, you can be in service, constantly thinking about how you relate to other people. On the other hand, you move truly from the perspective of understanding the cause and effect of the Universe and connecting with yourself. But there is no receiving energy for yourself there. We are not in any way excluding the exchange of life, energy, and everything else. But it doesn’t mean we interact with other people because we need to get something.
That would be manipulation. In that case, you should sit down and make an agreement on specific parameters. For example, people agree: “I go to work, and you pay me a salary.” But you might not like your job, you quit, it ends easily—and that’s it. But what if you didn’t agree in marriage? Of course, you can sign a contract and write down all the necessary agreements, but in energetic exchange, in true love, and in the holistic connection of two people, there is no contract.
Marriage is not a contract. If you treat marriage as a contract, then you can call it a job, a social project, or a nonprofit organization. And when you have a child, you do not have the right to turn that into a project or a contract, because that person did not make decisions with you. A child can say they wanted a different mother, who looked different, and you clearly didn’t agree on that. And the child has every right to do so. If adults reason this way and live like this, and express such positions to others, then why can’t you express a position in the opposite direction? And it is here that the theme of energy vampirism arises.
When a child is born, I fundamentally acknowledge for myself right away that this child may exist only by consuming my energy. But I will do everything I can to remain a true human being next to them. But I have the right to set boundaries. That’s the whole essence. Just as you have the right to say to your employer: “Excuse me, please. In this contract, I signed that I work eight hours.” Every person has the right to behave in the way they consider necessary, to set their personal boundaries, and to defend them. But it’s important to remove the element of argument, which is what generates negativity.
The essence is not about the correctness or incorrectness of energy exchange, because from the perspective of life and the construction of the Universe, we don’t know what a “proper” energy exchange is. But as long as we are in the process of reasoning and understanding, from the perspective of energy exchange it is a very broad aspect. It doesn’t mean that another person is acting correctly toward someone else. They may also be acting incorrectly and not realizing it, but at some point they will become aware. The whole essence is that you need to learn to treat people as equals—this is the fundamental idea. That is, to treat all women, men, and children neutrally and equally. Then a huge number of boundaries that define the concept of vampirism disappear, and we begin to feel life, at least to some degree. And how can you measure anything at all if you cannot find equal things?
And here comes the greatest problem of humanity—comparison. Comparison of who is better or worse, comparison of outfits, appearances, characteristics. And your spiritual essence is screaming to you: “You don’t need to compare, you can simply connect with me!” And then a huge number of comparisons disappear, because you don’t even understand on what level you are comparing. You reach another level of comparison, where you see that these things were never worth comparing. They don’t matter at all.
For example, a friend of mine recently told me that in Europe he bought a house, and his wife went there with the children and says to him: “It’s easy for you in Moscow, you’re alone, and I’m here with the kids.” Some time passed, six months later, he went to Europe to be with the children, while his wife was working in Moscow. And she calls him and says: “It’s easy for you to relax in Europe while I’m here working.” This is the essence of our life. What do you do with this? Well, you need to decide what you want from life.
Any comparison is absolutely useless. People constantly classify themselves through comparison: “who has more and who has less.” But what’s the point of all these comparisons? There’s a fact, there’s a difference, there’s division. There’s so much of everything, but you can never compare two people with each other. Because the spiritual essences of people are comparable to some extent, but only if you think in terms of the person’s spiritual being and not their ordinary reincarnation.
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