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Devaluation
What to do when someone tries to devalue you? This is a very common situation. The first thing you need to do is exhale, don’t defend yourself, and don’t waste time on it.
Now, let’s talk about the things you need to do and pay attention to, not to get rid of or solve the issue with a specific person, but so that in the years and decades ahead, such events don’t just stop happening, but you don’t even notice their existence.
Many people start to fight and take such an incredible stance when a devaluation situation occurs. Of course, it’s very important not to fight: this doesn’t mean you ignore it, or don’t process it internally, but you don’t rush into confrontation. Devaluation happens all the time in our social world. And the people who devalue you want you to react to it. Your lack of reaction – this doesn’t mean you show weakness, and I’m not saying to be weak inside. It’s important when faced with devaluation to find the inner strength to stand firm. If you’re in a situation of devaluation and you stand strong internally, it will be a great and significant life experience.
Time
The most important thing to understand is: the solution to a devaluation situation is time. And the first thing we fear and don’t want to face is the realization that this may last for a long time. That’s why we start to make mistakes, act incorrectly. Here, you need to calmly and attentively accept that you will need time. Over time, you’ll truly be able to see the cause-and-effect relationships, draw conclusions, process this past event, gain some experience, and continue living in a state of balance. But for this to happen, time must pass. Remember that there is time.
When you know this, you need to keep working actively. You’re being devalued at work, by your relatives, acquaintances, friends – you keep working. The conversion of your work, real life, value, development that will happen through this work will yield significant results over time, even when you’re in a tough moment. In a tough moment (especially in a situation where your work is being devalued), you shouldn’t stop working, don’t run away, don’t quit, don’t disappear, don’t avoid people – you need to keep working.
Observation Practice
Observe your state and actions towards other people. Even if you’re doing bad things, or disengaging in certain moments during interactions – always reflect through observation. Through action towards others, attention, the desire to be in harmony with them, an incredible life is born... A life of a different level, scale, radically different development – real, not imagined.
The next important block, which gives a person the ability to find a real solution that lasts for a long time. This block scales a person, scales and develops their personality. You need to start observing your state towards other people. If someone devalues you, how do you feel about these people? Do you feel compassion for them, something neutral, or tension, aggression, anger? Endless questions... Do you want them to change their opinion, for something bad to happen to them? How many times in your life have you wanted something bad to happen to another person, so that life would prove the truth you invented for yourself?
When someone devalues you, under no circumstances should you try to prove that it’s not true. Don’t start comparing your results to other people’s in an attempt to lift yourself up and devalue others; or to bring down the person who devalues you just a little to lift yourself up. That’s a big mistake, and you’re making it worse. You start digging your own hole, even if it was initially dug by another person.
How to Stop Devaluing
Pay close attention to this simple action: every day, check if you discussed this devaluation with someone on the side, if you condemned those people on the side. Observe how easy or difficult it is for you to handle it, but do it alone. It’s very important to take this simple action – stop all discussions. And if the situation suddenly turns around and life really proves that the person who devalued you was wrong, – don’t shout about it.
Once again: you’re doing this exercise now, getting the information, and you want to solve this issue not so that you feel great for a month; not so that for several months no one bothers you. But so that throughout your life, you calmly accept that in today’s social world, other people can carry hostility, harm, negativity, lies, take away the only thing you have – your freedom. But no one can take away your love and who you are as a person. Your freedom depends only on you.