These seven habits can completely change your life. By becoming aware of and implementing each of them step by step, you can come out of depression, feelings of worthlessness, the endless pressure of the world, the state of lack of money, relationships, space, joy, and rest. These habits launch a huge transformation and give inner strength.
Habit № 1. Stop waiting for the right moment.
Modern people often feel like they are standing still. It seems like life has frozen, but in reality it is always moving and developing. Around this habit — waiting for the “right moment” — many illusions are built. People around you will push you toward this: friends, acquaintances, parents, bosses, partners, colleagues.
It is important to understand: ideal conditions will never come. The only thing that exists is now. This is not about the abstract “live here and now,” but about the fact that every time you think: “soon the time will come and everything will be fine” — this is an illusion.
Recently I talked with my employee. I asked her: “Who told you that this very ‘good time’ will come?” She hesitated: “Well… I’m waiting for it, it should come.” But deep down she no longer believed in it. Every time you catch yourself on such a thought — remove it. Life is happening right now, and you are already scaling at every moment.
Habit № 2. Expose the illusion “I cannot leave.”
Many people live with the belief: “I cannot leave.” I cannot leave this relationship. I cannot leave this job. I cannot leave this routine. A person experiences this state again and again, although inside they want to leave.
What to do? Ask yourself the question: “What do I want to leave right now?” Any activity, any situation that you do not want to live through — write it down on paper and take it under observation.
This is very important: do you really not want to be in this relationship, at this job, in this country? Or is the problem deeper, and you are running away from yourself? I have a close person who constantly says: “I hate America.” She lives there, and her words sound sincere. But if you look deeper, her rejection is not connected with America at all, but with internal reasons.
There are also other situations: when you want to leave friends who are destroying you, a job where bad things are happening. These need to be changed for sure. But often people continue to remain in a destructive environment out of fear. “I need this, otherwise I’ll be lost.” And so the illusion becomes a prison.
Before leaving, destroy within yourself this very belief: “I cannot leave.” This is the key step.
Habit № 3. Catch the moments where you live someone else’s life.
Social media has completely changed our reality. We absorb a huge number of other people’s stories, and sometimes we begin to live them. Not only social media does this, but also series, movies. And gradually it becomes difficult to distinguish: am I just observing or am I really living it?
Recently one person gave me a powerful example: “If you are watching a movie with a murder, you are experiencing that murder. Even if it is not real, your consciousness experiences it.”
For many people, this becomes a habit that takes away their life. And most importantly — it blocks new opportunities. Because while you are busy living other people’s lives, your own opportunities remain unused.
Very often a person complains: “I am in routine, I cannot stop.” And it’s true — you won’t be able to if you are living other people’s lives. This is one of the most destructive habits.
Habit № 4. Track the beliefs “I know everything.”
Modern people live with the feeling that they know everything. They went to school, university, they have a family, children, business — so they know how everything works. I am by no means devaluing your knowledge and experience. But it is extremely important to let new knowledge in. Earlier, in school, at least we listened to what was being said. And today, as soon as we hear something that does not match our worldview — we instantly reject it. The ego squeezes a person so much that they cease to be capable of change.
Try an experiment: during a week, observe every time you have the thought “I know this.” Just observe, not rejecting the knowledge, but recording the moments. After a week, see how many situations you noticed. This will become a huge key. A key to growth everywhere: in business, relationships, family, sense of self.
Habit № 5. Dedicate 2–3 minutes daily to reflection.
This is a simple practice: set aside a couple of minutes a day to ask yourself: “What am I doing right now? Where am I? Do I realize what is happening, or am I acting on autopilot?”
Most of a person’s problems are connected with the lack of awareness. It’s easy to check this. Set a task to ask yourself this question every 30 minutes. Just 20–30 times a day. And check in the evening if you managed to do it. You will see that almost not at all.
Without an alarm, it is almost impossible. Try writing it on your hand, hanging reminders, but without signals. An interval of 5–10 minutes is acceptable, that’s fine. The main thing is to train the skill. This is an incredible habit that forms the basis for all the others.
Habit № 6. Sort out your relationships with your partner or boss.
Modern people spend a huge part of their lives at work. And if there is constant conflict with the boss, pressure, lack of safety — this stress penetrates into all areas. You must feel calm. Work is not a prison. It is a part of life where there should also be room for joy, memories of loved ones, inspiration. If every day you go there with the thought: “Again this person who pressures and manipulates” — it destroys.
Therefore it is important to take under observation: what is my relationship with my boss or partner? Are these mature and adequate relationships? Or is there a big problem here?
Habit № 7. Engage in personal therapy.
Often therapy is perceived as a visit to a psychotherapist or meditation to relieve problems. But by personal therapy I mean something else. This is a process where you go to a specialist, a friend, a teacher not just to remove stress, depression, or conflict, but to get to know yourself more deeply.
It is precisely this position — “I want to know myself” — that gives enormous scale. Any person is capable of growing thousands of times: regardless of age, faith, nationality, income, or environment. Why? Because self-knowledge is endless. The deeper you know yourself, the brighter life becomes in all its manifestations: in family, business, professional activity, rest.
Implement these habits gradually, one after another. Start with any and keep it in awareness for at least a week. Already this will give an incredible expansion of perception and become the beginning of real transformation.