Today, we’re discussing a practice that leads a person toward truly expansive development. It’s a practice that enables someone to grow and evolve many times over. Tenfold, in fact. It’s certain to give you that 10x.
The Essence of the Practice
The idea is that every evening, taking just 5 minutes, you look back at how you treated other people throughout the day. All people—not only those closest to you or your coworkers, but even complete strangers.
- How did you act when someone directed hurt, loss, or sadness toward you?
- How did you act if someone was angry at you or did something hurtful?
- How did you act if someone did something kind or simply did nothing at all?
- Were you thinking about other people at any point during the day? Who were they? What did you feel about them?
The most important thing is to note what you truly felt toward these people.
On the one hand, maybe you felt kindness, helpfulness, a desire to show them love, warmth, and genuine assistance.
Or perhaps you projected a sense of personal gain: “I’ll do something for them only so I can feel better,” the feeling that they’re doing just fine while you’re not doing so well. What exactly were you projecting? How did you feel about other people?
In this practice, the main thing is to simply observe. Don’t strive to “behave well” right away or try to artificially change your reaction. Just notice your true feelings and intentions.
“What Comes Next?” — Letting Go of the Outcome and Focusing on the Process
Modern people often ask, “What happens if I do this 5 minutes a day? What about a week from now, a month, three months?” Or, “I’ve done it for a couple of days—now what?”
When we talk about genuine expansion and growth, it’s crucial to understand:
You’re doing this practice not for a specific result, but because you’re choosing to do it.
It becomes an integral part of your life and is happening continuously, with no expectation that “if I do this, something specific will come back to me in return.”
With this approach, over time you’ll start to pick up on your own reactions in the moment, right as situations unfold. You’ll begin to see how, even before voicing a complaint or irritation toward someone, a certain internal tension arises. And you’ll learn to notice those impulses.
How Relating to Others Is Key to Massive Growth
A crucial point is that how you treat people takes shape not only in personal interactions, but also when you think about them or send them messages. If you’re criticizing, judging, or “turning them inside out” in your thoughts, that’s already negativity you’re creating.
If all this sounds too heavy or if you don’t think caring about others’ well-being is important, then at least try neutral observation. Don’t label things as “right/wrong”; just observe what and how you feel.
Expansion Isn’t Just About Achieving Goals
Many assume that expansion means boosting certain metrics:
- Your salary has gone up 10x.
- The time you spend with your kids went from 2 hours a week to 20.
- The number of new projects or courses completed.
But all of that is just a matter of events.
True expansion is the ability to recognize cause-and-effect connections, to see the space around you, and understand the real laws at play (not ones we invent or pretend are “correct”). People often think they’re developing, yet their “insights” change every six months, and their attitude toward the same people remains hostile.
The point is to watch your behavior toward others:
- Without justifying yourself.
- Without focusing on what they’re doing.
- Observing only yourself and your own reactions.
Steps Toward Genuine Growth
- Notice and Become Aware: Observe what you think of other people and what you say about them in their absence.
- Acknowledge That Ego Often Takes Top Priority: Sometimes people will even harm loved ones just to protect their ego.
- Understand That How You View Others Is No Small Thing: It determines how deeply you can perceive and feel the world, and how well you recognize underlying patterns and connections.
Practicing this for just 5 minutes each day will bring incredible expansion of your awareness and open the path to genuine personal growth.