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People are constantly searching for what they need to do right now. They are looking for their next step – that’s what I call it.
Today, I want to talk about what you should focus on to find your next step: at work, in business, in personal life, in relationships at home, and in all areas of life. The important thing about the next step is that you must approach it consciously: don't feel like it's too late or too early to take the next step. At any given moment in life, there is always a next step you need to take. There are a lot of them.
The current social world always tries to highlight just one area for a person. This is a common story everyone tells: pick one area in business and focus on it.
Focus on lead conversion in marketing; focus on your personal relationships and do just one specific thing with your spouse; focus on your health and take care of your body – but this is impossible. It’s like saying, "I’m not going to care about how my body functions except for my liver." This is a mistake, and the key is to understand that there are dozens, hundreds, and even thousands of steps to take. You need to have a calm, relaxed attitude about it. This will bring great results.
When we say that it’s too late to take the next step, we limit the countless opportunities in front of us. At the same time, we act as if we can easily determine whether it’s too late or too early for a step.
It’s important to tell yourself: "I’m not consciously observing my choices right now." On one hand, people are constantly striving to be free and make choices, but on the other hand, a whole day can go by without realizing the specific decisions they've made throughout the day.
Another important thing: when making decisions, people don't always see the full cause-and-effect relationship. They see the causes too narrowly: for example, they say they’re in the U.S. because they bought a plane ticket and flew here. No, you’re here because you’re 40 years old, and life has brought you here – through a series of actions you've taken. Or, for example, you say your business was profitable ten years ago but not now because you’re bad at marketing. No, you were bad at marketing then too, but the business grew because the market grew, and you were selling the right product. Now you do marketing the same way, but the market isn’t growing. Or, back then, you did marketing well, and your metrics grew because you did marketing well and the market grew. But even if you’re doing marketing well now, no matter how well, the company won't grow. Nothing will happen. It’s important to see the correct cause-and-effect relationship when you look at your next step and allow yourself to accept that it’s neither too late nor too early.
Don’t focus on just one area of life to find your next step – you are limiting your life instead of expanding your perception.
I often talk about true personal development scaling: it’s not about what achievements you have. True personal development scaling is about expanding your ability to perceive more of the world. I’m not talking about measuring by quantity, but about a person’s state of perception throughout the day, hour by hour.
Perception of life is what true personal growth is about. And here, there’s always a state of consciously understanding your next step.
People always come to the question: How do I understand my next step? Then: How do I know that this next step is real? Once they understand that the next step is real, how do they see the next step in various areas? And then, how do they make it happen automatically, where they don't even notice they're tracking it? When this becomes a habit, part of your life, and you determine your next step as automatically as walking or breathing.
And when you compare yourself to another person, wondering why they have the ability to see these next steps and you don’t, you don’t really know what you’re comparing.
Allow yourself this: you don’t know what it’s like to live in a constant state of balanced decision-making. Observe this. The point is not to accept it but to arm yourself with this awareness now – start noticing it, taking simple actions. These actions lead to incredible inner freedom. And most importantly, to the right decisions in your life. Allow yourself to accept that you make hundreds of unconscious, incorrect decisions every day. Don’t argue or compare your personality with me; just allow this idea to exist. My goal isn’t to be a different person; it’s for you to hear that the only way to see the next step is to consciously observe all your decisions. That’s a different kind of freedom and different opportunities in terms of life, business, professional growth, and your internal state.
And most importantly: there’s no specific tool to reach a state where you can find your next step. The impulse to find the real next step doesn't depend on how many books you’ve read, what education you’ve received, or who your mentor or coach is.
The impulse to find the next step lies in how much inner freedom you have every minute; how much you are a person who is ready to feel each moment, feel beyond time; how much you are someone who understands the causes of joy, suffering, grief, loss, love, freedom, acceptance, creativity, madness; how much you see all of this within yourself and the space around you.
I recommend watching my videos called “Next Step” on my channel. In these, I meet with a specific person and break them down – usually, it’s about business, but in reality, I’m breaking down the person. And what’s important is that I find the next step through their own point of freedom. When you’re in a pure state, you can see movement and the right actions for another person.
Don’t think that I’m encouraging you to find the next steps for other people – that’s an illusion and a myth: if you suddenly have that desire, it’s your ego. Observe all of this.
Freedom is when you have no expectations or comparisons with that personality. The more you compare yourself to other personalities when you listen to them or interact with them, the more disorder you have within yourself. You’re battling the chaos of your own states and personalities.
You can see your next step when you feel silence with other people. But you can only feel that silence with others when you’re in a state of silence and freedom yourself. Seeing the real causes is an incredibly deep, immense opportunity.