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Psychophysical Tension: How to Release It. The Importance of Tears and Their Connection to the Ego

Personal development · Jun 5, 2024 · 15:45 · 2,335 words · Alexander Volchek, Unidentified participant, Alexander Mineev

Translated from the Russian transcript, following the spoken conversation. Each timestamp opens that point in the original Russian video.

00:01

Alexander Volchek

You're trying to describe the tears in positive terms. You're saying that now you cry because of insights, whereas before you cried because of suffering. But the thing is, tears, by their very nature, in any case, come from a person's ego 99.9999 percent of the time. What difference does it make whether those tears come from the ego because you've found something good or from the ego because of suffering? What's the difference? First of all, as a person, it's important for you to understand the source of the tears itself. Just the source. The likelihood that someone cries out of love, out of happiness at a moment they've witnessed, is infinitesimally small. I recommend that no one deceive themselves about this. Just don't deceive yourself. Don't even entertain it. There's no need. Just don't entertain it. But you need to cry it all out. And it's a really great trigger for looking at when it happens, at what moment it happens, without being afraid to do it. It's a very good indicator of the presence, at this particular moment, of the state, the cause of its emergence, the cause of this enormous source in the ego. That's all. But crying it out is very useful, because it very often neutralizes and releases a great many bodily tensions, various psychophysical tensions. In any case, if it happens during a genuine encounter, such as the one we're having now, it leads to a very powerful transformation of your system.

So you need to experience this, without being afraid of it. That's why I always tell people: if you're in a state of good, deep awareness, don't be afraid to cry it out. Don't hold back your tears. It doesn't matter whether it's two men interacting, two women, a woman and a man, and so on. Don't be afraid to do it, to cry it out. Some instances of crying it out are useless, because they come from a completely rigid structure of ego-driven motivation. There's no searching in that. The fact that you've begun experiencing other kinds of tearful moments has to do with your state, with the enormous amount of movement and transformation taking place. You've been in a new place for several years, a completely new place, a new space. New births and new discoveries will happen for you. I always say: don't rush. How old are you?

02:55

Unidentified participant

Thirty-two.

02:56

Alexander Volchek

Thirty-two years old. At twenty-eight, you began intensely living through the karma your life had formed. You'd been moving toward that. You'd been moving toward it your whole life, toward beginning to live through it. So live through it. This is only the beginning. It's the beginning. We tend to think that the beginning was back then, and now it's already the end. That's it; everything's supposedly finished. We take today and wrap everything up. Nothing at all is finished today. You're thirty-two. Twelve years ago, who knows what you were doing. You have another thirty years ahead of you, at least three of your professional lives ahead. Family life: you've been married for a few years, or a year, or however long. You have thirty, forty, or fifty times more life ahead in that respect. You've barely had any of it yet; this is only the beginning. Everything has only just begun. At the same time, an enormous amount is simply continuing. If you look at human life more broadly, without limiting it to this lifetime and these thirty-two years, then this is nothing at all. All these reflections help you find a very solid point of support and broaden your own perception, so you can expand, expand tremendously, and grow tremendously.

All of this gives you a strong point of support. It's important to keep remembering what's truly happening, so you don't hear this endless wailing siren in your head. But for us, for you, there's a siren blaring in your head all the time, you understand? A siren blaring in your head all the time. You live amid an endless siren. And how does that siren affect you? Does it really affect your own state, or does it have no effect? A fire truck drove by. Maybe a tree fell, maybe a rabbit was crushed and got stuck in a river. Maybe someone was in a car accident, or someone had a serious health problem. It could be anything. A vehicle simply drove by, a siren. That's life; that's what our life consists of. It's important to remember the deeper things. That's why you need to keep rewatching this video. Keep rewatching it, once a week. Each time, entirely new insights, new ways of defining things, and so on may emerge. At least for you. Many viewers may need to rewatch it too, but that takes a great deal of strength and a desire to grow and move forward. You need strength for that. We live in a very complicated world, with social aspects of sheer madness, just madness, and belittling.

People endlessly want to tear one another apart because they endlessly want to pit their personalities against one another, say who's better or worse, compare themselves on various points, endlessly compare themselves with one another in some way. They understand that this is impossible. It can't be done. What comparison? What do you even want to compare? A person's world is boundless. What do you want to compare? But in this life, having been born into a physical body, you certainly can find continuity, and it's important for you to find it. You need a steady flow. You need many of them, many different steady flows. The longer you do something, the more that's the essence of it. Continuity. Do you have many ongoing client relationships like the one with me? How many? Right now? No, how many altogether, Sasha? Just like this, like me. Someone you've been meeting every three weeks since November and filming regularly. And I'm a very complicated character. Sasha, look, you aren't creating continuity for me; I'm creating continuity for you. How do I create continuity—look, this is very important. No, it's a blessing and it's wonderful. There's no problem with it. Just look closely at it. Where am I, and where is continuity in your life? I clearly don't fit into your continuity, yet I'm here in a continuing relationship with you.

Even though I don't fit into that continuity. Look, I don't fit; I'm an absurdity. Take a little look at my life up to now. You've heard a little of my experience in business, of what I talk about. Do you hear the sheer scope of what I'm describing? Where am I, and where is continuity? And you ask me, “Does Syoma deliver on time?” Someone might say, “Alexander, do you even keep track of when your videos are delivered?” You need a lot of this, you understand? You need a simple human life, with simple human... You need to learn to love the regular moments of what's happening, without turning them into exaltation. But that's what you do. You find a moment and turn it into an exalted experience. You saw a cool ocean today, and you need to get that rush from it right now. But no, you simply need to begin. You live near the ocean. Go every day if you like and look at it. Drive forty minutes and look at the ocean every day. It's already there near you. You don't need to get exalted about it; you need calm, you need continuity. Go there and sit. Go there and sit. Go there and sit. Go there and sit. Go there and sit. Go there and sit. Just sit. Don't enter a state of exaltation in those moments.

Because in a state of exaltation, you enter a rhythm of things that are a little out of control. Over on that side, an example of things being out of control is drugs. There's that area of being out of control. That's the area of drugs, where a person feels freedom in that. But freedom isn't in that. Freedom is being able to keep going to the ocean three times a week. Just get in your car and go there. Arrive, sit in a chair, and leave. Sit in a chair with a sandwich, and leave. Sit in a chair with a sandwich, and leave. It isn't arriving at the ocean and saying, “I'm free!” Blasting music, dancing a little, and getting that rush of exaltation. Don't get exalted. You need to learn to love continuity, a simple moment. When you begin to do that, you perceive a different range. You perceive a different range; you'll begin to notice other ranges. Again, look: you never used to ask me about your prices, and you still don't. You never used to ask me about contacts for yourself, and you still don't. Just look. Look, there are entrepreneurs—

Look, there are entrepreneurs, and probably thousands of entrepreneurs would gather just to hear me say something and to speak to me. I'm not saying everyone likes me, everyone needs me, and all that. In fact, my audience is quite specific, complex, adult, maturing, and so on. Or so it seems. Well, join in! Like hell you will. Because you didn't create that continuity. You could do much more with me, much more. Just a great deal more, all sorts of things. But you aren't the one doing it. You see? I'm doing it. I'm doing what I consider necessary. But overall, you could do much more with me. I don't have any particular restrictions. It's a question of the ability to do it. For example, you've been coming regularly for six months and entering my space, my home, finding a particular place here. This is a particular kind of place, Sasha, just like the previous house. The point isn't the house or the perception of this space, how beautiful it is outside. It isn't this space itself; it's this particular family. You enter a certain family space, sit down, something happens, Polina comes in, there are lunches and other things, little things, these bursts of life, you know, these little flashes.

You need to learn to notice other possible things happening nearby. Slightly different things. Give this a little room. You have it; it's always there. It's just that at this moment, you aren't noticing certain things. You simply don't register them. You have them, but you don't register them. You know, you don't see them. You're always afraid and thinking that all these other people are somehow harming you. They aren't harming you. They're harming themselves, Sasha, not you. Do you understand? They're harming themselves, not you. All these arguments, conflicts, strange questions they ask you, restrictions. Did you finish in time or not? Deadlines. You're all just creating damn problems for one another, but they don't—they don't have that desire. There are people who want to harm others, but on the whole, you probably don't encounter many of them. And it's interesting that you even have a brand called Lucky Brand. That's very interesting. Very interesting, you see? Because that's the kind of fate you have. You're simply on a particular track, and fate keeps tossing you out, keeps tossing you out.