Why You Keep Suffering Despite Working on Yourself | Why Happiness Does Not Come

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekOSOlga StolyarovaAnxiety, stress, and inner calmHealth, rest, and lifestyleAnxietyF/Friend / friends

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00What people call suffering
• 03:46How to live when you are suffering
• 06:55How to work on suffering
• 08:07The relationship between stability and human suffering
• 13:34Wanting to change everything as a rejection of the present
• 16:04What healthy inner stability is
• 19:20The perception that allows you to change nothing and not suffer
• 31:08How to see the root of your state

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• 01:19

  On the other hand, I have always spoken about suffering in a different way, and that is why you are not asking how to avoid suffering.

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• 02:42

  “How am I supposed to live? What state am I supposed to be in?” You must always begin with a calm, clear, conscious understanding that the presence or absence of suffering is not part of a person's task.

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• 04:18

  If it is not an essential need or a true task, it means you may suffer or you may not.

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• 05:43

  It did not appear in the space of New York—it had always been there and still is. The anxiety appeared in me.

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• 06:18

  When anxiety arises in you, it means your perception has narrowed.

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• 08:59

  “Why has the same cafe been here for fifty years with the same quality or the same service, or the same bench been here for fifty years?” There is economic stability. As we discussed this, we moved on to other countries. For example, if…

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• 16:38

  So do not undermine your own perception and understanding of what stability actually is.

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• 17:12

  If we say anxiety is not a central concern in a person's development or life and is not essential to it, that does not mean you should not work on your anxiety.

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• 18:44

  So yes, calm is extremely important for people living in endless stress and all kinds of wild illusions.

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• 27:05

  Yesterday we were discussing something, and I said that I had never had any inner conflict or argument about moving to the United States.

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