How to Change Your Life in 5 Minutes | A Practice for Growth and Awareness

AVAlexander Volchek

Hello, everyone! My name is Alexander Volchek. You're on my channel about human growth and development. Today I'll tell you about a practice that leads to incredible, genuine development and growth. It's a practice that enables you to grow and develop many times over, many times over. To achieve tenfold growth for sure. The practice consists of setting aside five minutes every evening to look at how you related to other people throughout the day. By other people, I mean absolutely everyone. What did you feel? What did you do? What were your intentions? What expectations did you have of those people? How did you act when someone brought you hurt, loss, or sadness? How did you act when someone brought you anger or did something bad? How did you act when someone did something good for you, or did nothing at all? Did you think about other people at any point? Who were they? What did you feel about them? The most important thing is to register what you really felt toward those people. On the one hand, you felt kindness and a desire to help, to convey love and warmth, to help them sincerely.

Or were you conveying a desire for personal gain, to do something for them only so that you yourself would feel good? A feeling that the other person is doing well while you feel bad right now. What were you conveying? How, specifically, did you feel in relation to other people? This practice is incredibly broad. Essentially, it can replace absolutely all the work you do throughout your life. You could tell yourself, “I won't do any other practices anymore. I won't do anything else for personal growth. I'll simply stay with this.” At this point people always—modern people absolutely always—ask themselves, “What happens next? What happens afterward? What happens after I do this? What happens after I do it for five minutes today, or for a week, a month, three months? What happens next?” Or they do it for several days in a row and say, “So what's next? What am I supposed to do with all of this? I've reflected, looked at everything thoroughly, evaluated it all.” When we're talking about genuine growth and development, this is the task you need to remember and absorb. If you genuinely want it, if you're open to asking the question, open to the possibility that you want to grow and truly develop, say, tenfold, then your starting point has to be wanting to do this practice, not wanting to see what comes afterward.

Direct the desire itself toward doing it, doing it continually and without any judgment, whatever you find. Observe it. If, during the day, you brought a lot of people malice, sadness, and aggression, if you brought them your judgmental scrutiny or condemnation, if that happened, then simply observe it. The point isn't to start behaving well toward other people every day. What matters now is to start paying attention to this, observing it. Of course, if you're a healthy person and genuinely want to develop, to grow in terms of your world and your values, you'll draw conclusions about how you behave toward other people. What can happen beyond those five minutes if you start doing this? You'll begin to notice yourself responding to your behavior toward others in the moment, during the day and in the events that follow. In the moment means right there in the situation, while you're interacting with them, or even before a particular reaction arises. It's very important that relationships with other people aren't formed only through your conversations with them. They're also formed when you simply send someone a message or just think about them.

In our lives we generate an enormous number of thoughts, and an enormous number of thoughts and discussions about other people come to us when those people aren't present. When we think badly of them, start judging them, or start picking them apart, we bring them great suffering. If you don't see this, don't feel it, don't want to stay with it, and even watching and listening to this is difficult for you, I recommend approaching it very calmly. At least make it a small subject of observation for yourself. Don't declare it definitely true or false. Simply make it something you observe. Neutrally. If you think it's acceptable to treat other people badly, if you think it's acceptable to deceive, kill, or rape them—as is happening today in a great many countries and large parts of the world—that isn't human growth. I'm not trying to get rid of you now, telling you to leave, or saying this video isn't for you, especially if you've watched this far. The point is that it's very hard to relate to people through the lens that only you matter, only your ego matters, only your own result matters.

Notice how many times during the day you bring people anguish and sadness. Are there any moments at all when you truly think about other people? People in this world are infected. Nine out of ten people are so infected that it's practically impossible for them to break through their ego structure, their ego system. They're prepared to destroy and kill their children, parents, husbands, and wives to save their ego. They're prepared to die themselves rather than agree that they bring evil to other people, that they bring evil to other people every day. Why do I call this genuine growth, something that allows you to grow many times over? Because genuine growth in scale isn't about reaching a particular target. Your salary grew tenfold. You had one child and now you have three. You planted ten flowers and then two hundred. You sat in meditation for twenty thousand hours, attended fifteen coaching sessions, or spent twenty hours a week with your children instead of two. That isn't growing in scale. Those are simply events. That isn't growth. Genuine growth depends on how well you can truly perceive cause-and-effect relationships, see the space around you, and understand real patterns—not illusory ones, not the ones you've decided for some reason are important or right.

Not those events. Even if you're at a stage you consider development, notice whether your conclusions change dramatically every six months. Or whether there's some endless constant in your pattern of behavior. Are there people with whom you're constantly at an impasse? I know several people with whom I'm constantly at an impasse in life. I continually observe my own behavior toward those people. But I'll stay with my own observation—not of how the other person behaves, but of how I behave toward other people. There are now many videos on my channel about what genuine perception is, what genuine observation is, how to experience the New Year period, how to be in a state of change, how to draw different conclusions, and what genuine growth in scale means. Immerse yourself in this content. Listen to more of it. It provides an incredibly broad and powerful perception. If you want even stronger development, come to my V100 group. It's quite accessible. There are closed groups that are hard to get into, with individual meetings. This group is very accessible.

There you'll definitely enter a state of sustained awareness, of sustained, genuine personal growth. I very much wish that for you. I wish for you to find that root and backbone within yourself, to feel joy, and to know that you remain in a state of perceiving other people throughout your whole life. Making this a genuine miracle and a joy is a great human endeavor and task. See you again! You're on Alexander Volchek's channel about expanding life in every aspect: personal development, professional development, business, family, health, your own state—everything, all the elements and aspects that make up your life and your own scale as a human being. See you again!