Tell the Truth “As It Is” or Stay Silent? The Main Illusion in Relationships | 360° Video

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekTruthCouples and healthy relationshipsTimeF/Friend / friendsAcceptance

What is said here

• 00:02There is a subject people keep asking about: relationships—personal relationships, family, two people at work, or friends.Truth · Friend / friends
• 01:56What happens is interesting. A person thinks, “I am not telling you the truth because I am trying to preserve our relationship…”Friend / friends · Truth
• 03:39All kinds of people are watching now, and that issue is closely connected with what we are examining today.Truth · Friend / friends
• 05:24There are people who live in the material world, and people who live exclusively through that world, perceiving nothing beyond it. They say everything follows the laws of physics, everything has been described and explained, and…Truth
• 07:05The second illusion concerns how events will unfold afterward. Does what you say matter at all?Love · Truth
• 11:34When you convey information to another person, true or false, understand that you mostly perceive the process through an illusion.Time · Truth
• 15:13Because they do not believe it or want to hear it, they make a mistake. Just as they fail to hear outside advice, they personally make a mistake. They personally make a mistake…Truth · Acceptance · Death
• 17:05Are you sure you are truly helping the person? Are you sure you are helping rather than acting manipulatively? It is a very interesting question.Health · Karma · Truth
• 19:56A mortgage. There are enormous numbers of advantages and disadvantages you can describe. But things also happen that you cannot work out on any calculator.Truth · Cause and effect · Time
• 22:16The second task is to understand that at every moment you need to make a decision.Freedom · Truth

Claims made here

Individual claims identified in the material: who said them, when, and what kind of thought they express. Each timestamp opens that point in the video.

• 02:25

  I have seen this many times: “Listen, you had better not tell that person this information. It will destroy your relationship.”

  Alexander Volchek

• 12:45

  Because their space narrowed and they perceived less, they made a wrong decision, a negative decision, not a true decision, not the decision they actually needed to make.

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• 14:59

  Often, though, people do not listen. You tell them how someone will behave, and they do not believe it. They do not believe it; they do not want to believe it.

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• 16:06

  Someone once approached me in a group—either V100 or Life—and said, “We have an employee who is dying of cancer. How can we help this person?”

  Alexander Volchek

• 19:23

  We arrive at a triangle of illusion: your own understanding of truth, your understanding of the other person’s reaction and their understanding of truth.

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• 20:36

  Or the reverse: people buy an apartment and suffer for an extraordinary length of time because, without that apartment, they would have separated sooner.

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• 22:16

  The second task is to understand that at every moment you need to make a decision.

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• 22:59

  People live in a combination of strongly predetermined things and the possibility of freedom. That freedom will necessarily bring chaos to your consciousness, because freedom means not knowing what events lie ahead. That is what makes it freedom.

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• 24:07

  Someone may respond angrily today and with complete love tomorrow.

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• 24:16

  Today they may not understand you, and tomorrow they may understand you fully.

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