A new perspective on relationships that will scale you up 1000 times.

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekAVAnna VolchekCouples and healthy relationshipsLove, help, and rescuing othersLoveAcceptance

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00How do you know it is time to leave a relationship?
• 02:21Why did you come together? A reason deeper than everyday circumstances
• 03:37Foundation 1 for deciding: leave or stay?
• 06:07The state from which to choose: approaching the right decision for yourself
• 7:48What is a "truthful" decision?
• 8:12A paradox: you can part even when the relationship is good
• 10:50Personal experience
• 11:55The foundation before any relationship choice
• 12:42Foundation 2 for deciding: leave or stay?
• 17:13Fears: being alone, the unknown, "What if I make a mistake?"
• 20:03Foundation 3 for deciding: leave or stay?
• 21:10Foundation 4 for deciding: leave or stay?
• 22:15Life is a process: living it rather than seeking a perfect outcome
• 22:39A practice for living through uncertainty while preserving your dignity
• 23:44What is love? Different kinds of love

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• 01:41

  I always say it is very important to be extremely careful here, not only for me in what I say, but also for the person wanting to make a decision.

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• 03:28

  When I know this, every decision I discuss or make is based on the reason we are together.

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• 05:00

  If every relationship has a reason why people came together, it also has a reason why they part.

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• 07:16

  So, when approaching whether to end a marriage, even when it doesn't need to end, it is important to perceive that every relationship will end.

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• 07:33

  Understanding both that there is a reason people came together and that every relationship will end allows a person to reach a state in which they can make the right decision at the necessary moment.

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• 14:28

  You look at someone and think, "Wait, were you always like this, or have you changed?" That is why it is very difficult to remember your past.

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• 18:04

  This is why I began, Anya, by asking the reason you came together.

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• 19:42

  That is actually where we began: it is possible for both people to be in that state.

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• 21:20

  We have discussed areas I would give attention to, and do give attention to in my own family. It doesn't matter whether you want to part; that is the whole point, Anya.

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• 23:29

  But in most situations in life, it is possible to live through this in joy and, most importantly, with respect for the other person.

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