Do Not Quit Your Job If These Signs Appear

AVAlexander Volchek

Don't quit if these signs start appearing. Someone goes to work every day and works. They may like the job or dislike it. They work. At some point, they reach a state where they definitely want to quit. And there are particular reasons and events they base that on. Well, knowing about these events, you shouldn't rush off to look for a new job, and you absolutely shouldn't go in and quit right now. You need to make certain other decisions. What are these signs? I'll try to describe the signs, on the one hand, and, on the other, offer some solutions: what to do in that situation. And doing this is incredibly important, because otherwise you may notice this incredible cycle in your life: three, five, ten, fifteen, twenty years have passed, yet the situation at work has been very strange. Even if you've had a great many jobs. This is especially characteristic of people who change jobs frequently. It's also characteristic of people who have hardly ever changed jobs and have worked in one place. Sign number one is a sudden change in your attitude toward the job. You were working before, and everything was more or less all right, or even great and enjoyable. And at some point, this very strange feeling appears: you don't like the job.

This happens to a great many people. It can come from all sorts of different causes, but what matters is that this state has appeared inside you: you aren't happy with the job itself. Number two: you're working, and a boss has appeared alongside you, your own boss. They've suddenly replaced your boss with someone you absolutely don't like. This person is completely wrong for you. Number three: it isn't a boss you absolutely dislike who's appeared, but colleagues. The team has become such that you can't be in it, can't be present in it. They irritate you at every meeting. They irritate you when you're communicating or exchanging messages with them, and you see that a certain amount of pressure is being put on you. Usually, colleagues start irritating people at work when there's pressure directed at them. There's something you don't like. You don't like people saying bad things about you. You don't like them taking some of your results and saying other people achieved them. You don't like it when someone points out that you haven't done some of your own work. You don't like that. You don't like it when someone gets promoted. Number three. What should you do when a new colleague, or new colleagues, appear and seriously irritate you? Sometimes someone comes in, and you get the feeling that all the attention in the company shifts to that person.

In other words, this person seems to take all the attention for themselves, and it starts weighing on us so heavily. Even irritating us, to some extent. Weighing on you because you feel as though the ground beneath you is shrinking. Because the person really is making an impression. You see how pleased management is with them, while you have this strange feeling that the person is bad: for example, that they're deceiving the company, or bringing it the wrong kinds of opportunities, or overstating their results, or taking advantage of someone else's success. And in general, you disagree with what they're proposing. It's very important to get this person out of your head. Absolutely stop letting them occupy your thoughts. The best thing you can do overall is to start communicating with them neutrally, professionally. Absolutely don't try to become their best friend, but absolutely don't start avoiding them either. The thing is, moments like these at work allow us to gain an incredible amount of life experience. Experience that later pays off considerably in our everyday surroundings. Because it's better to live through problems like these with a colleague at work than to have that same incredible irritation arise in your family: toward your husband or wife, for example, or your parents or children.

Live through this at a calm pace. And number four: people on the team start saying the company isn't what it used to be, that something's wrong, that the company used to be great, working here used to be great, but something happened and the company changed. There are these four signs, and they're quite significant. Depending on their circumstances, when these four things happen, people start thinking about leaving their jobs. That's a mistake. The important state to be in when these signs appear together, or when any one of these things happens, is a state of calm observation. What is a state of calm observation? It means that when you deal with a bad boss or bad colleagues, or with being bullied or treated dishonestly at work, or when you feel that changes have happened in the company and it no longer fits within your values, it's important to approach this with the following understanding: your life is your life. Anything at all can happen in the company, and you need to try to observe, to observe from the outside, why you consider certain things good and certain things bad. Why you consider some things happening in the company great, and other things happening in the company nothing special.

This state of observing, of living through things. Give yourself time to live through it: two, three, four months, roughly that long. It leads to incredibly important results. The first thing you gain, and actually the most important, is that you broaden your perception of the situation as it unfolds and allow life to run its course. Someone will say I'm talking about strange things that have nothing to do with reality, because you need to make concrete decisions. You should be interested, and you should have a great income. Your work should develop you professionally. But at the same time, allow this into your life, allow yourself the possibility that you need to spend a few months experiencing a completely different attitude and state at work. An attitude where you aren't just working every day, turning up like a hamster on a wheel, but have entered a state of broad perception and understanding of the whole picture of what's happening. Try to see why these circumstances have started arising in your life. Why mustn't you quit? Because, for the most part, you quit because of your own fear, your own ego, and your own desire to get away from the problem at that particular moment. Getting away from a problem means not being with that problem every evening. When you come home, there's a problem today, a problem tomorrow, a problem the day after tomorrow.

You know the problem is there, and you live with it for three or four months, with that problem. And you want the problem to disappear. The easiest thing to do is simply quit. Of course, you've left. There's no difficult boss, no difficult team, no workplace troubling you. Even if you've been offered a new job, you mustn't quit if these circumstances have arisen. Allow yourself to live through this, to spend some time within it, and look a little from the outside at what's happening. Often, when something around us seems bad, it's simply that some new state has switched on inside us. And the cause may have nothing to do with work: it may be your relationships at home, with friends, with anyone at all, with the space around you. Often we think a new boss is bad. First, we may simply not accept them or fully understand their goals. Most importantly, that person could leave the company and be replaced. Often we think the new colleagues aren't right. A huge number of people today try to survive at other people's expense. Give this time. These people always burn out and move on, burn out and move on. Right now I'm talking about an adequate view of the situation. Often we feel that when people around us say the company is sinking, we have to quickly, together—

Everyone says the company is sinking, and we have to hurry and run with everyone else, so that we absolutely don't end up alone at the end. But if you look at a huge number of companies: I know a great many companies where, for ten or fifteen years, employees said, every time, every year, that the company wasn't what it used to be. But if you live in a world where you want to scale up, develop, and change, you can be in a place that's changing too. This company that isn't what it used to be: every day it will keep being different from what it was, because a company that scales up and develops, a team that scales up and develops, an environment that scales up and develops, definitely aren't what they used to be. Be thoughtful about quitting. There's a great video on my channel about quitting and your attitude toward quitting. It has this striking title: “What I Did After Hiring and Firing More Than a Thousand People.” I recommend watching it for a somewhat different reflection on this. See you again on my channel. Subscribe and support the channel.