At Least Do Not Lie to Yourself: “What Will People Say?”

Main subjects

Anxiety, stress, and inner calmF/Friend / friendsAcceptanceFearFreedomSelf-confidence

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00What will people say?
• 01:57What lies at the heart of worrying about other people's opinions?
• 04:51A cycle of consequences
• 08:09Faith in yourself and expectations of other people
• 09:54A different worldview: a business example
• 14:29Wanting to take advantage—and doing it. How can you prevent it? How can you develop trust?
• 19:15How to recognize your lack of self-confidence
• 19:46Parental influence and long-term decisions
• 22:50A fundamental aspect of other people's opinions

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• 06:55

  On the other hand, with people you shouldn't be open with—because they want to take advantage of you, because they want to harm you as a person—you behave in the opposite way: very accommodatingly. You show the other side of the ego, when for the sake of this…

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• 09:56

  not because they are worse or better than you, but because they have different goals in life and a different worldview.

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• 10:30

  But what matters to you is doing work you love in your business, work that gives you a creative impulse every day.

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• 10:39

  To this entrepreneur, all that matters is making money, regardless of how, regardless of what the business involves—even if it harms other people.

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• 15:01

  This is an incredibly important adjustment: you need to be very careful with people who want to take advantage of you, because we live in the twenty-first century, and this happens within today's social conventions.

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• 15:16

  With them, you need to be—not exactly closed off, but on your guard, and definitely not preoccupied with what their opinion will be.

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• 17:12

  I've said it before and will keep saying it: one of the most important opportunities for a person's growth—for your development as a person, for the development of your entire life, your whole state and experience—is how you treat other people.

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• 17:33

  In this second case, when you respond by putting pressure on someone who came to you with kindness, it happens automatically. You simply don't trust them on a mental and physical level. You automatically distrust a person you should trust.

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• 19:29

  That will give you the strength to be honest and truthful with the people you should be open with, and to understand whose opinion really matters.

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• 22:18

  But it is important that you personally don't make the mistake of opening up your feelings to this person, because they will take advantage of it in any case, and in any case—in any case—drive that nail in further.

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