4 Habits That Undermine Your Fulfillment and Success

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekHabitFulfillment and successF/Friend / friendsPerfectionismPersonal development and inner support

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00What real growth means
• 00:45Habit 1: negativity toward work
• 04:05Habit 2: perfectionism without a goal
• 07:40How to let go of perfectionism
• 11:35Habit 3: “seeming like someone else”
• 14:43Habit 4: choosing what to study based on “credentials”
• 19:29Two guides for personal growth and the next step

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• 04:05

  It is the habit of constantly seeking perfection in the tasks you need to do.

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• 05:20

  Because watching three or four minutes of a video will never let you understand who I am, what I do, what I am involved in, my thoughts and the details.

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• 11:37

  Another cause of serious deterioration is trying to seem like someone other than who you really are.

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• 12:36

  Notice that if someone driving a taxi says they are not a taxi driver, that they have a business, to many people they will begin to seem worse, not better.

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• 12:51

  Many people don’t understand that: they don’t seem better.

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• 12:57

  When a person tries not to be themselves, they don’t simply want to be better.

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• 14:29

  Because when people learned that he had more than a billion dollars, they wanted to be with him for his money, rather than simply because he was a person.

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• 15:06

  One of the major reasons people deteriorate instead of developing is that, when choosing what to study, they are guided by the credentials of the person teaching.

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• 17:05

  For example, they focus on the credential that a person’s business is worth ten billion dollars. Then the person says something about developing family relationships, and they start behaving the same way.

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• 17:18

  In reality, that person is suffering in their family relationships more than ever, feeling lonely, unbalanced and unsettled.

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