A Life of Waiting and “Life on Hold” Syndrome: How to Stop Waiting for the Perfect Moment

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AVAlexander VolchekBoundaries, expectations, and the right to be yourselfWork, profession, and career pathThe 'life on hold' syndromeDecisions, action, and self-sabotageAcceptance

What is said here

• 00:00People often ask themselves: what's the ideal moment to do something?Time · Children · Changing jobs
• 01:32In theory, you could probably even find more or less appropriate moments to conceive a child. At the very least, there's physiology. In general, there's probably a moment.Love · Children
• 02:59They're telling themselves, “I completely control all of life, absolutely every event happening around me.”Children · Wife
• 04:29If we rely on an ideal moment as an absolutely guaranteed truth we've established for ourselves, we can become profoundly mistaken.Freedom · Time
• 05:54Again, when you say that the ideal moment doesn't exist, you're entering a state of believing you know everything about everything: how everything works and happens everywhere.Partner · Business partnership
• 07:23An ideal moment for me doesn't mean it's ideal for my wife, husband, children, mother, father, or anyone else.Business Molodost · Time
• 08:52At the same time, my teacher said, “This will end very badly for the company. For you, it was the ideal moment, a good and right decision at that time, but not for the company.”…Acceptance · Time
• 09:56An effect for yourself alone, your own gain. If we understand an ideal moment as ideal within the life of planet Earth and other people, that's a very good…
• 11:37That's responsibility, and above all responsibility to yourself. Be responsible in life. See you soon!Responsibility

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• 00:32

  Or you keep waiting for it, checking every action and saying, “Now this is the ideal moment. This is ideal now. This is the ideal moment.”

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• 02:22

  On the other side, a person turns the ideal moment into a race after what's going to happen and tries to rely on that ideal moment.

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• 03:20

  On the other, it's important not to fall into an illusion. Where ideal moments exist, you need to understand, for example: today is the right, ideal moment for us to conceive a child.

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• 07:23

  An ideal moment for me doesn't mean it's ideal for my wife, husband, children, mother, father, or anyone else.

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• 08:34

  Relationships were one of the foundations of that business, and at the time Petya Osipov wanted me to leave the CEO role. So it was the ideal moment for me to do it.

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• 09:43

  When we use the word “ideal,” perhaps we mean ideal across life as a whole, as right as possible from life's perspective.

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• 09:59

  If we understand an ideal moment as ideal within the life of planet Earth and other people, that's a very good movement forward.

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• 10:34

  When we make decisions, we very often affect the people around us.

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• 11:04

  I'm not saying doubted, but observed: look carefully to see whether there's some deception in it, whether you're actually saving yourself this way.

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• 11:27

  Perhaps you're just saving yourself because you're running away from one of the most difficult aspects of human life.

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