How Do Family Constellations Work? What You Are Really Changing

AVAlexander Volchek

This is the most important thing of all: do you actually understand what is happening? Do you understand the process? You can simply carry out certain actions when someone tells you to do something. I can tell you to sit, stand up, put your hand here, move over there, or say something to someone. You will simply follow my commands without understanding why. Right? This is very important. Some instructions will come from outside, and for other things you will be told, “Do what you hear, or what you yourself feel.” Okay, let us treat that as a command too. You have been told to do what you feel or what you say. Now let us move to the next question. To understand this, let us look a little more broadly, at your own understanding. When we talk about taking your own place, do you understand how the system, a person's ancestral family system, is organized?

Let us stay with a person's ancestral family system. How is it organized? Do you understand its structure, its energetic construction? It is energy. What you are talking about now is energy: “Energetically, I am in my own place.” How is it organized?

OLOlya

No, I definitely do not understand how it really works, because I have not gone very deeply into the subject.

AVAlexander Volchek

Yes, you understand it as something abstract. Someone has told you that there is a system in which everyone is supposed to occupy a certain place energetically. At least, that is what you have just said. I am repeating your words so as not to go into broader detail, because clearly everyone who practices this will bring in their own ideas and say, “This woman just misunderstood. There are other aspects as well,” and so on. So you did not understand it. Notice that you participated, but you did not understand it or fully know what you were doing. Now the next question: why do you want to take this place, your own place? Why? Let us imagine you are in someone else's place.

OLOlya

Yes.

AVAlexander Volchek

You are about to see some very interesting things. You are in someone else's place, and someone tells you, “Stand in this place and you will resolve this issue.” Who decides which place you should take? Are you being asked to become yourself, or to take someone else's place? Yourself or another person's place? Because at the very beginning you said, “You need to take your own place, to be yourself.”

OLOlya

Yourself, yes.

AVAlexander Volchek

You need to become yourself. Now let us examine a very interesting social phenomenon. Most people in the world constantly want to become someone other than themselves, to be someone other than themselves. They look at stars or interesting people, listen to authors, and try not to be themselves. Why? Or they want to perform an action they do not want to do or do not like, or that they have been forced to do. In other words, a person wants to be someone other than themselves. Who told you that becoming yourself would give you more strength, rather than less, to resolve a relationship problem, for example? Who said that? I would simply ask: here I am in someone else's place within the family lineage, or standing somewhere alongside the lineage. We will look at the causes and go a little further. For now, we are still examining it at this level.

Who told you that being here and using this energy does not, on the contrary, give me some additional strength, whereas taking my own place would make me lose all that strength? Perhaps that is exactly why I am here, not by accident. I have taken my uncle's place and remain in it because my uncle had the strength to resolve certain issues, and I do not. If I take my own place, I will just be a gardener and never resolve any issue at all. That is precisely why I would make this choice. Or who said that by changing places, I would not gain in one area and lose in another? Is everyone told that? When you arrive somewhere, do they tell you, “You will resolve this issue now, but there is a strong chance that hundreds or thousands of other systems and tasks will change”? Even if we were simply talking about changes, let us look at the obvious: when a person moves from one place to another, their life changes.

If someone was energetically living a life that was not their own and moves into a different energetic life, obviously their life changes. It changes not only in the way they want, but in an incredible number of other aspects: other events, unintended circumstances, encounters, meetings, details, and so on. You are dealing with a large amount of energy, and this is not a social change, like moving from one room to another. Imagine it was noisy here and I went into another room where it was quiet. I more or less control these rooms because they are mine. But if I go into another building, into a neighbor's room, first, I could be arrested. Second, the neighbor might come in and start peeing, pooping, or singing. I cannot tell him what to do. If it is noisy here because of cars driving outside, in my neighbor's room I have no influence at all.

When we talk about new energetic spaces, another family, or other relationships, there are far more circumstances within cause and effect. That is the first thing to think about before taking any steps. The first thing. If someone presents this process to me, I would ask: when we make this move, are we working only on this issue, or on something else as well? Are we entering other circumstances, or not? Do we actually understand the real chain of cause and effect? Or are we under the illusion that we understand it? What is an illusion of understanding cause and effect? For example, you attended family constellations. Clearly you were interested in relationships, since you mentioned that issue to me.

OLOlya

No. I have not had a constellation done for myself. I used to attend constellations simply as a representative for another person when their constellation was being done. I did not have one done for myself.

AVAlexander Volchek

Incidentally, that is interesting in itself: you come to help another person and enter these energies with them. And you say, “No, no, Alexander, I did not touch any of this myself, so there are no questions for me right now.” Then what were you doing in terms of energy? If you came there and you believe, live with, and understand the existence of energy, what were you doing energetically? Were you bringing in your own energy, or allowing energy to pass through you? If you were allowing energy through you, did you see everything clearly, or not clearly? Tell me, when you participated in constellations, how many people were told they were in their own places? Nobody. Nobody. At the end, they are in their places, then they come to the next constellation and they are not in their places again. On this journey of theirs, which place did they actually take?

They took a temporary place; they experienced it only in part. Or if you yourself are not in your own place, where can you lead another person? It is an abstraction of reasoning, details, and aspects of perception. Now, are there places where someone has very strong perception and works through a particular method? I am sure that the constellation method differs from one person to another in terms of what actually happens. There can be complete inaction, with no energies and nothing happening. And there can be very serious activity, with people practically flying and exchanging energies, deep energies.

So do you understand exactly what you are entering when you go to a particular place? Or when someone tells you there is an ancestral structure, I want to ask: is there a structure of your own place, of your spiritual being, apart from your family lineage? Obviously, you listen to a lot of my content and will say, “Of course there is.” If your own place exists, then at these places where constellations are held, does anyone work with your state and your position in the spiritual world, in a particular place? How do they diagnose and determine that? Or take the inner voice. One very important aspect of that question is: what are you hearing?

You hear your own dead thoughts and conclusions that are not truly yours, because you read them somewhere in a book. You act out of your psychophysical blocks. The transmission of thoughts through your soul is disrupted, and your perception and your influence are distorted. You hear other people and their perceptions coming at you from outside, and you cannot choose the right answer. What does it mean to choose the right answer? Imagine you are somewhere and are asked a difficult question that requires a decision. You need to think and consult someone. But while you are consulting people, microphones, megaphones, and other people are shouting different answers and offering different arguments. Is it easy to make sense of things in that setting?

Is it easy to understand what is actually happening? Different texts, treatises, and writings are thrown at you, contradicting one another, because everything is contradictory. You need to approach that person, stand over there, perform this action, and so on. What is actually happening? When I asked whether you had done this in connection with relationships, it was not to catch you out and say, “Well, did your relationships change or not?” That would be a very wrong interpretation. Your relationships might have changed there, while that energy changed somewhere else, perhaps in a negative direction. If you are already in a situation that calls for correction, not in your own place, there is a reason for that.

Who told you that if you go somewhere else, perform a certain correct action, and take a proper breath, you will not go back and continue breathing polluted air, returning to the same state you were in before? This is incredibly important. Even if you move into another space, and let us suppose it is a good one. What I see of constellations on YouTube and what people tell me about the actual processes involved presents a big problem. A big problem. The subject itself can be a very serious problem.

Just like a huge number of subjects, any subject concerned with teaching people how to live. Sport, too, is a big problem for human development. So is nutrition—the idea of proper nutrition. How many bad things it brings into people's lives, and how many good things. But the question is: why did it appear? What is its source? What am I getting through it? What am I actually getting? Am I actually developing through this, following the right path, and avoiding a system of delusions? Or am I drawing wrong conclusions that become deeply embedded in my consciousness and my energies, so that I begin to follow a distorted path in relation to a true perception of everything that is happening?

At these events, is there an exchange of the energy of truth, or is someone feeding on someone else's energy? This is a very serious subject. Imagine people with deep perception who may not even know it themselves, who receive pure impulses. Such a person comes to an event like this. Of course it feels great to take part as a representative or in some other role. Everyone says, “This person can see, and they said something right.” But there may also be someone who can see and uses it in their own interests. What will happen then?

When we talk about using something in one's own interests, we need to understand right away that the idea of self-interest is very relative. There are interests you are consciously aware of, and there are times when you are not aware of them, when you are sure you are taking the right action, but it is wrong. It is a mistaken decision. An enormous number of people enter partnerships in their own interests, based on their own vision, and then lose. An enormous number buy stocks in their own interests, based on their own vision, and then lose. It may seem to come from clear vision, but there is a deeper system of cause and effect. The central problem we are discussing is limiting everything to the idea of the family lineage: the idea that every issue can be resolved through it.

That is a limited concept in terms of human development and life. It does not mean this area does not exist. It exists, but it is limited. It is part of your spiritual world and part of your spiritual system. A part, a small part. The second point is who you are interacting with. These people who are doing something—what energies drive them? What impulse do they have? Are they aware of what they transmit, or do they have no understanding of what is being transmitted? I remember the first time in my life I saw the energy of quite a powerful person, a powerful teacher. What is the source of the energy he perceives? Where does that energy come to him from? That is very interesting. When you hang on someone's every word, you do not see where the energy comes from.

Often, you do not see it. That person may be stronger than you, and your perception is closed. If you begin to see, you see where the energy arises and start analyzing it and drawing conclusions for yourself. But does the person transmitting it understand this at all? If they do, at what level do they understand it? How honest and open are they about this information? People are not concerned with that. People went to Vanga to ask her questions, not to ask how she knew. And here is the question: if they had not asked that question, would it have happened or not? There is always this very interesting aspect to consider.

If they had not asked, would it have happened that way, or not?