How to stop living in a state of “not having enough money”

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AVAlexander VolchekMoney, anxiety, and financial thinkingThe feeling of not having enough moneyChildren, parenting, and family lifeTimeF/Friend / friends

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00Two main reasons for a lack of money: rational and internal
• 01:50The inner state that creates anxiety about money
• 06:00Examining the rational cause: the link between rationality, thinking, and feeling short of money
• 09:50A broader view of how we perceive rationality
• 15:36What it means to "scale down your idea of what is rational"
• 16:24How people make mistakes about rationality: less, more, differently
• 16:51The rationality slider: where it really is
• 21:55Why employees live with a sense of shortage even in wealthy companies
• 22:57The OpenAI example: a different philosophy of money
• 24:40The force that determines whether there is enough
• 27:27"I cut spending and still don't have enough": what to do
• 31:58How people create their own financial necessities
• 36:00What is rationality?
• 38:15How to move out of anxiety and shortage
• 43:00Practical observation: what to do right now

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• 05:21

  I can say that enormous numbers of people make the mistake of giving money advice without understanding what the other person actually needs and values.

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• 06:04

  When we see these two different causes—a rational cause on one hand, and on the other, an irrational, inexplicable state of having enough money or not having enough—that is where we need to direct our attention to resolve this problem.

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• 06:27

  Someone says, again, "I have a mortgage. I have to pay it, so I need to earn money."

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• 09:41

  This isn't condemnation. It is about a normal understanding of what a rational, normal life is and what it isn't, and what we descend into when people say, "Buy something simpler. Live rationally, and you'll have enough money."

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• 13:05

  Someone writes, "Why pay for that self-driving car when you can hire some immigrant for a thousand dollars?" First, this reasoning misses the fact that you cannot hire yourself a driver for a thousand dollars in California, in Silicon…

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• 24:35

  And people leave, saying, "You aren't paying us, so we will leave altogether. We won't stay with you.

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• 26:17

  "What kind of purchase do you have to make?" If someone earns four hundred dollars a month, they might have six cents left on their card, but she didn't have just four hundred dollars.

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• 38:09

  The most important thing to begin doing is telling yourself the truth and stopping deceiving yourself.

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• 39:45

  Situations arise where I try very hard to explain to my children that we are not economizing; we simply can't afford it.

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• 42:04

  "What is rational about that?" We live in a very difficult time for deciding what is good and what is bad.

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