When you have everything in life, but there is no joy

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekHealth, rest, and lifestyleCouples and healthy relationshipsHealthParisChildren, parenting, and family life

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00Everything is good, but there is no joy: the paradox
• 02:30Looking for a problem: relationships, work, business
• 04:24The Paris example: one place, two different states
• 07:18The illusion that "everything is good" and what our state depends on
• 09:49Do you need to change jobs, countries, or people?
• 10:46What does "good" mean, and who defines it?
• 17:33How to step outside the limits of your state and feel free
• 21:38Money and happiness: where the concepts get confused
• 24:26How even freedom of choice can create problems
• 30:06Where to start changing your state

Claims made here

Individual claims identified in the material: who said them, when, and what kind of thought they express. Each timestamp opens that point in the video.

• 14:07

  To me, her diet isn't that good because I have trouble buying certain particular organ meats that aren't sold here, or at least are hard to find in the quality and form I need, or require a trip somewhere to get them.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 19:30

  People arrange things to make them even better, intensifying the "good" that supposedly influences their inner state.

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 19:46

  I must have a wife or a husband, and we will live together our whole lives.

  Alexander Volchek

• 24:47

  Right now, I am at a point where I can essentially work as much as I want during the day, because I am involved in various businesses, activities, boards of directors, and projects.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 26:41

  Whether to go to the ocean now, call a partner, lead a spiritual gathering, paint a picture, play the piano, record a video, call another partner, have a business meeting here, meet an interesting person in the Valley, meet to discuss an IT project…

  Alexander Volchek

• 28:53

  You become fixated on some "good" that might happen in the future, thinking it will make you feel absolutely wonderful in the future.

  Alexander Volchek

• 29:56

  Although there really are enormous numbers of examples where people felt better without money than with it.

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 30:07

  To really understand your own state, it is important always to look and understand why you want to obtain something or do something.

  Alexander Volchekrecommendation

• 33:27

  Is the important thing never to discuss death with children, never to approach it, or not to discuss death in your family for fear of bringing it into your home?

  Alexander Volchek

• 33:41

  Although that is absurd, because death surrounds us; we will all end up there.

  Alexander Volchekcause