Why Kindness Is Not Always Repaid with Kindness | What Real Help Is

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekOSOlga StolyarovaLove, help, and rescuing othersHelping out of love or egoFearEgo

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00What is wrong with “No good deed goes unpunished”?
• 01:58A true perception of goodness
• 06:16When doing good harms another person
• 07:37Where we go wrong in judging good and evil
• 09:50True goodness: how to avoid harming another person
• 10:20How constantly judging “good or evil” prevents a broader view
• 14:24How powerful events narrow our perception
• 17:48How to help yourself and others when things are difficult
• 25:11Dividing good from evil

Claims made here

Individual claims identified in the material: who said them, when, and what kind of thought they express. Each timestamp opens that point in the video.

• 02:38

  Social causes and effects, psychological ones, perhaps—people are willing to do anything.

  Alexander Volchek

• 03:30

  Someone will say, “What if it happens in a situation where someone hits you? Are you ready to turn the other cheek?” I say: let us not think that way right now.

  Alexander Volchek

• 05:24

  If I think this way, I have no problem understanding what comes next.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 06:16

  If we consider the spiritual world and see that this was what the person wanted, then you are doing harm to them, because they needed to be ill.

  Alexander Volchekprinciplecause

• 07:08

  But if you look at the bigger picture, you are bringing them harm, not good, because they are in a system that should not be developed.

  Alexander Volchekprinciplecause

• 07:08

  The only thing they need to do is close the company, not keep developing it.

  Alexander Volchek

• 15:14

  I was calmer, but even so, having your child collapse in your arms several times is an experience of its own.

  Alexander Volchek

• 15:14

  I seemed to take all of this fairly calmly, unlike my wife.

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 16:07

  After shouting, I came back to myself, sat down to prepare the material, and delivered it as usual, as if nothing had happened.

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 17:56

  She said, “What does that mean?” I said, “You remember where we live.”

  Alexander Volchek