2 Actions to Restore Your Interest in Life and Sense of Happiness | Self-Development

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekDMDmitry MugenovPersonal development and inner supportF/Friend / friendsLoveAwareness, observation, and perception

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00What lies behind apathy and indifference
• 02:42New goals as a way out of apathy
• 05:55Where grand goals lead: the connection between goals and joy
• 07:00Bill Gates's story: should he have worked less?
• 09:08Why you struggle to achieve your goals
• 15:14Action 1: How to bring joy back into life without abruptly abandoning everything
• 17:16A simple daily practice for regaining interest in life
• 19:20Action 2: How to bring joy back into life without abruptly abandoning everything
• 22:24What does it mean to observe?

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• 01:26

  It's a constant series of races. When one race doesn't work out, the person says, “That's all right, I have a new race. That's all right, I have a new race. That's all right, I have a new race.”

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• 03:19

  We need to look at what grand goals are and where a person's desire for them comes from.

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• 03:29

  A grand goal means surpassing yourself, your parents, the people close to you—it doesn't matter whom. It's a desire for some kind of superiority.

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• 05:39

  If you set a goal—especially a grand one, I'll say it again—its very grandeur implies a low probability of success. But the person doesn't believe that.

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• 06:54

  Take Bill Gates, the head of Microsoft. I respect him a great deal. But when I start hearing people say, “You know, at a certain age I realized I should have worked less”…

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• 09:27

  If a person doesn't know the real reason they're moving toward a particular goal—or, more precisely, that reason doesn't match what they think it is…

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• 10:49

  So someone who, as you put it, uses different methods or practices to achieve a goal will make mistakes if they don't understand this chain of cause and effect.

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• 11:12

  I don't think that's the right decision, but it's better to tell yourself, “Listen, this is why I'm doing it,” than to say you're doing it to make money or feel joy.

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• 12:11

  We've been discussing this over the past few days. Since we're here in California, in the Valley, we've been talking about some tech projects in terms of venture capital.

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• 17:35

  The very act of doing this is your strongest advantage in moving toward a good, happy experience of life.

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