VideoPersonal developmentJul 25, 202613:42
Want to Leave Everything Behind and Start from Scratch? What Will Really Change?
Alexander Volchek
Almost everyone eventually faces a question like this: should I close my business, leave, end a relationship, or move to another country? How can you tell whether it is a genuine inner impulse or an attempt to escape an unresolved state?
Main subjects
Alexander VolchekFearRetreatCouples and healthy relationshipsAnxiety, stress, and inner calmSpiritual development and the spiritual path
The main question
Almost everyone eventually faces a question like this: should I close my business, leave, end a relationship, or move to another country?
What you can take away
- In this episode, Alexander Volchek explores what really lies behind the desire to change your life radically.
- This episode offers a different way of looking at major changes, moving, divorce, changing careers, and wanting to start over.
What is said here
- 00:00Our topic is the desire to drop everything and leave. How do you distinguish a real impulse from running away? Someone wants to leave, radically change their life, close a business, end…
- 01:29Let me give an example. As always, today's subject is difficult to grasp. A man and woman live together and have a conflict.Conflict
- 02:55It is not that the marriage would have been different; it would not have existed. Neither would the relationship. The same goes for those business partnerships or agreements people make with each other.Cause and effect · Karma
- 04:22Should the divorce happen because it has to happen, or because someone needs to live through something? That line of reasoning is absurdly abstract.Fear · Cause and effect
- 05:53The question itself is absurd, because everything in our lives happens for something, and at the same time everything happens simply because it happens, for no purpose.Cause and effect
- 07:22What should you do when you want to change your life radically? There is no reset. What reset? Take a shower and wash yourself: a sort of reset.Spirit · Children
- 08:52Everything. Perhaps some people in the world would say, “I am ready for that.” But let's agree immediately: having your memory erased does not mean life afterward…Retreat · Wife · Fear
- 09:58“Could I reset in the same way and get that too?” Through a reset, people want not only to remove certain characteristics but to bring new ones…Fear · Retreat
- 11:18“Or that you should be together?” I said, “It means nothing of the kind. It means only that you feel good with them at that moment.”Time
- 12:36At some point, they might say to the other person, “Maybe I feel good because you are here beside me.”Wife
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- 00:41
“I want to decide, through my conscious approach, whether I genuinely see that I should not be doing this, or whether I want to run away.” There is a problem with that whole situation.
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- 02:29
We begin discussing whether this can be resolved well, badly, or some other way.
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- 02:38
What is remarkable is that if they had been developed from the outset, related to one another humanely, and seen the whole picture, that marriage would never have existed.
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- 03:58
Returning to our topic of dropping everything and leaving, it is important to examine this situation between people.
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- 04:06
When examining such a situation, it is important to understand its essence, what is really happening, and whether it needs to happen at all. Should these people divorce?
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- 06:06
Stop endlessly dividing your life into these categories: am I making this video because I need it for something, for an experience I need to live through, or am I simply making a video?
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- 06:50
But I also understand that there are an enormous, effectively endless number of things.
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- 07:06
This brings us to another interesting part of the question I was asked.
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- 09:22
“Please, could the retreat get rid of this pounding in my chest in the morning, this discomfort and fear?”
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- 12:28
The more we narrowed the circumstances and removed familiar social explanations, the more they would cling to something.
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What to watch next
- I was fired, what should I do? I lost my business, what should I do?
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Who this is for
- For readers interested in: Couples and healthy relationships, Anxiety, stress, and inner calm, Spiritual development and the spiritual path
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