How to avoid losing yourself in a relationship: what to rely on when things get difficult

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekCouples and healthy relationshipsNot losing yourself in a relationshipF/Friend / friendsChildren, parenting, and family lifeKarma, free will, and causality

What is said here

• 00:00Why are some people constantly insatiable, wanting another woman, or constantly insatiable and wanting another man?Time · Truth
• 04:48From my perspective, I would probably advise against making unsupported claims about this. People make sweeping statements about what tends to happen, or…Time · Children
• 06:21“Yes.” “Who never even have that thought.” “It is amazing that they really can look completely different and be completely different people.” “Completely. And there are also—” “In different social classes.”The soul
• 19:33“Yes, of course.” “Discuss the influence of children? You say, ‘Sasha, are we going to discuss the next fifteen reincarnations, or the next five or ten years?’ Do you see?”Time · Tatyana Tsvetkova
• 20:59“That is psychology. Yes, I agree.” “Whether openly and freely or not.” “Well, I do not know to what extent. I would not call that the level of psychology, Tanya, because the very fact of becoming aware of it means that you have…”Forgiveness · Freedom
• 22:03“Other people are to blame for what is happening to me. There are other aspects, another perception, another state.”The Universe · Truth
• 26:18You cannot say it out loud. You cannot say it out loud. Where you and I live, you cannot do that. Elsewhere, it is allowed. You have the right to say it, and nothing will happen to you for it.Spirit · Truth
• 31:16“That is a fact. It is the only thing a person can do when they do not know how to act.” “By the way, I agree with you one hundred percent here. Very often, simply observing a situation…”Friend / friends · Time
• 32:48And so on. I could have noticed how you were feeling, how a person was speaking, how other people were observing, or taken in everything that was there.Tatyana Tsvetkova
• 33:35“Why am I like this?” “That happens a lot too.” “Then what does that make you? The cause of someone else’s state, or of other things? No—on the one hand, no, actually. On the other hand, yes.”

Claims made here

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• 00:00

  Why are some people constantly insatiable, wanting another woman, or constantly insatiable and wanting another man?

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 00:07

  Why does that insatiability keep making someone want more children? Or why, on the contrary, is someone so deeply settled that the thought does not even occur to them?

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 05:56

  Or why does that insatiability keep making someone want more children? Or, on the contrary, why is someone so deeply settled that—and this is very important, Tanya—the thought does not even occur to them?

  Alexander Volchekcomparison

• 08:21

  A wife or husband initiates a divorce, and he does so because causes have been set in motion in his wife for that divorce to happen and for her to meet another man.

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• 08:46

  So did the person arrive at this divorce because it was necessary for the way these people’s lives and experiences would unfold afterward, or not?

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• 13:39

  That is precisely why Rudolf Steiner writes and says, when addressing his teachers, that to be a teacher you have to be a prophet.

  Alexander Volchekcauserecommendation

• 14:33

  I can mention that as additional information. But the first thing to do is look and offer the person—offer the person—the opportunity to examine what the true course of life is for their spiritual being.

  Alexander Volchekrecommendationprinciple

• 20:37

  But the point is that you say to yourself, “Oh, I remember: my attitude toward this person, my feeling that he is being heartless, is my own ego.”

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• 25:51

  “I dislike this person, so I am not going to hire them.”

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• 34:44

  “On the other hand, I believe one should not do that, so I did not.”

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