Who Should Pay in a Family? Analysis of 6 Budget Allocation Models

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekChildren, parenting, and family lifeCouples and healthy relationshipsThe family budgetCHChildrenLove

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00In today's episode
• 01:01How does the way you divide the budget affect the relationship?
• 03:37The man pays all expenses
• 06:36The woman pays all expenses
• 07:40Fifty-fifty, and the important distinction between who earns and who controls the money
• 09:22Shared or separate budgets, proportional shares, and money held by the parents
• 10:54Two points to focus on when dividing the budget
• 14:39What is important for a woman to do when dividing the budget?
• 16:02Mistakes in dividing the budget that destroy relationships
• 17:54The one condition under which ANY model works
• 21:10The problem of public opinion: how to deal with it
• 23:05How can you reach a sound agreement?
• 24:50Children and money
• 27:13Financial fears in the family
• 27:53Two reference points for dividing the family budget
• 29:17What if your wife or husband is manipulative? What should you do?

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• 00:00

  How many marriages have broken up over this? How many decades have people lived with this problem hanging over them?

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• 03:27

  For example, a person will bring this into their workplace and impose a particular incentive system on employees because they have dysfunctional patterns at home.

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• 04:50

  Then we will move forward, because by the time you finish watching this video, you will definitely have new perspectives on how to approach this properly.

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• 09:02

  Society says you can supposedly divide the money fifty-fifty, and this is considered, supposedly including in psychology, a way for people to feel calmer when discussing things and calmer in the relationship.

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• 10:59

  How many marriages have broken up over this? How many decades have people lived with this problem hanging over them?

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• 17:02

  I know situations where women take advantage of this and say, “You're pressuring me over this, and that is why things go wrong, why there are problems.”

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• 22:35

  But then someone watches this video and thinks, “Listen, I want to do this, but the people around me have no desire to do it, and they won't.”

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• 25:18

  Some people, including children, treat others disrespectfully because they know how to keep track of money.

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• 27:39

  Many men are afraid to grow their families because they do not understand how to provide for them.

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• 28:17

  Or your husband or wife will be alone because, for example, you die or become ill.

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