Why Do We Miss Opportunities for Growth Without Noticing?

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekF/Friend / friendsTimeChildren, parenting, and family lifeLoveCouples and healthy relationships

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00In this video
• 00:38How to stop trying to prove something
• 01:38Why we realize people's value only when they leave our lives
• 04:20How our ego prevents us from seeing opportunities around us
• 07:04Switching to informal address
• 08:39An advisor's role in a project's development
• 12:41My personal experience
• 13:47How relationships affect development
• 16:06Stay with us!
• 16:36Where are you missing opportunities for growth?

Claims made here

Individual claims identified in the material: who said them, when, and what kind of thought they express. Each timestamp opens that point in the video.

• 00:25

  How many people realize what a good person their girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife was, how good their children or parents were, at their last meeting or after they die?

  Alexander Volchekprinciple

• 02:14

  How many people realize what a good person their girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife was, how good their children or parents were, at their last meeting, after they die, or after you part ways, instead of trying to discover that and deepen these…

  Alexander Volchekprinciple

• 03:36

  When we're afraid a loved one will die, we need to grow even closer. But not in the sense of spending more time together or learning more about them. Closeness means I begin interacting with that person as a human being.

  Alexander Volchekrecommendationprinciple

• 06:03

  We keep talking about student and teacher: the person doesn't see themselves as a student at all. They don't want to see themselves as a student.

  Alexander Volchek

• 09:17

  But at the same time, this comes from the company owner, so it's entirely reasonable for the person to listen: in this case, I'm acting as an extension of the company's leader, complementing them.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 13:05

  The point is, these people were very open. It was their own small business, and they spent a lot of time with us.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 16:39

  Look at where you fail to notice it, where you take that position, as you just described so well: most likely, the person sees themselves as somehow better or superior, because of hierarchies and their ego in general.

  Alexander Volchekcauserecommendation

• 16:54

  Where does your ego make you miss out on real growth, on truly expanding—truly expanding as a person? You simply miss out. You just don't damn well notice, because you're closed... You and I have been in this for two weeks, right? In judgment.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 17:07

  You simply miss out because, “I don't really feel like listening to this person today.”

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 17:50

  It's important that I also give you a direction to move in here, because this may seem very difficult and may make you feel somewhat depressed, as though you've already missed out on so much in life.

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