Where Is the Line Between Love and Making Excuses? | What Is True Love?

Main subjects

LoveLove, help, and rescuing othersTruthBoundaries, expectations, and the right to be yourselfLove without justifying someone's actionsAcceptance

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00How to view another person's actions. The most important exercise in a person's life
• 03:23Where is the boundary between love and making excuses?
• 06:21External energies, karma, and human choice
• 08:47The main trap in understanding love
• 14:10What is true love?
• 23:09Can you love someone without interacting with them?

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• 01:19

  You can rail against this, or you can look from a higher perspective and understand it as part of the cause and effect of human development, under all these circumstances.

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• 02:06

  That is why I have said, say, and will keep saying: this is one of the best exercises in a person's life. You can make it your only practice and do nothing else.

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• 02:31

  Look for love for another person. Look for it in every glance, conversation, and encounter. Look for love even when you need to uphold certain social norms or a social contract.

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• 07:02

  We are always moving, not only revolving around the sun. The sun itself moves, heading, you might say, toward the center of the Universe along a particular trajectory, shifting, and everything else moves relative to it too.

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• 07:53

  So if a person was born at a particular time, on the one hand, supposedly they are not responsible for that. But in fact, they chose the time and date of their birth and their entry into a particular family.

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• 12:33

  So you should not even ask yourself, “Can I, or should I, love someone who has done a particular thing?”

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• 17:52

  So categories such as ADHD were introduced, or people were divided into choleric and melancholic types, creative and systematic types, thereby excusing their behavior.

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• 19:07

  We see it on religious grounds, when people say, “If you do not pray in a particular way, you should be killed.”

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• 22:28

  Other people immerse themselves in something good, and their ego grows, because they have the cause-and-effect connections for living through that structure of energy and that karmic experience.

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• 25:20

  But again, remember that loving a person is not because of shared experience or because you have spent a lot of time with them.

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