How to feel love for life and energy again in a week

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekAVAnna VolchekLove, help, and rescuing othersLoveChildren, parenting, and family lifeCHChildren

Main threads of the conversation

• 0:00Is it normal not to want anything?
• 03:11What to do about “I don't want anything”
• 03:34The state of burnout
• 05:20Burnout: what should you do?
• 06:29Causes of burnout
• 07:53A toxic job: how to avoid burnout
• 09:30The inability to make decisions in burnout
• 10:07The connection between burnout and a lack of meaning
• 10:50Why do people burn out at work and in life?
• 12:30Burnout vs. depression: what's the difference?
• 13:10A simple exercise for working through burnout

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• 02:14

  I simply want to approach this point: when we talk about and explore not wanting anything, or a person explores that state for themselves.

  Alexander Volchek

• 04:11

  So now we're beginning to explore “I don't want anything,” looking at the reasons a person is in one state or another.

  Alexander Volchek

• 04:18

  You're saying that one reason someone might not want anything is that they reached a situation where the actions they took led them into a state of burnout.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 06:29

  In most cases, one of the things to work on is the fundamental understanding that a person has burned out because they don't understand what actions to take next, or because they don't allow themselves certain actions.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 07:54

  When we're looking at burnout at work, the first thing you need to do to begin resolving any of this is to make an agreement with yourself. Simply agree that for the next three months, “I'll go to work with a feeling of love.”

  Alexander Volchekrecommendation

• 08:23

  Because if you've reached a profound state of not wanting to live at all—the other side of this subject of doing nothing is the various suicidal tendencies that can arise.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 10:32

  Anya, burnout can come from spending your childhood being told you must study endlessly, work endlessly, and that nothing will ever come of you.

  Alexander Volchekcauserecommendation

• 10:52

  But then they enter an environment, for example, where that's quite difficult, and they burn out because they keep trying to prove something that cannot be proved.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 11:43

  If it doesn't work, I'll burn out. If I raise children not because this is real life, not because this is love, not because it's wonderful, but only to prove to my mother that I can be a father, I'll burn out.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 12:06

  When you talk about having no goal to move toward, let's be honest, genuinely honest: there is always a goal.

  Alexander Volchekcause