2 Signs Your Relationship Will Soon Fall Apart and How to Prevent It

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Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00Teaser
• 00:24Sign #1
• 03:21Different interests: a reason to break up?
• 05:10How do you preserve a relationship when your partner changes?
• 06:37Important questions to ask yourself
• 07:35The only solution for preserving love
• 08:13Sign #2
• 10:50How to avoid a relationship crisis: two solutions

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• 04:05

  If people change, that really can be a reason, but the mere fact—the word “change” alone—isn't a reason.

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• 04:17

  If someone changes and decides they need to go to a monastery for the next thirty years, that will clearly be a reason to separate.

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• 04:54

  Otherwise, simply saying that change isn't a cause is an abstraction, a kind of philosophizing.

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• 07:38

  So the only thing a person can do is look at their inner state.

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• 10:36

  The most important thing to remember—the most important thing—is that when you got together, you got together at a particular time. Ten years later, it's a different time. It's a different time, and you feel different.

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• 11:20

  On the other hand, when we're talking about specific events—for example, we know we're going to move—and you understand beforehand that this may introduce certain circumstances into your relationship, into your family, it's important to try to consider how…

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• 12:05

  That was important, because we knew it could become a problem if we focused on it.

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• 12:19

  Or, for example, we discussed our financial possibilities because we were changing where we lived, so we'd all understand what would happen in connection with the move.

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• 12:32

  It means we discussed a set of parameters, talked them through, and identified them.

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• 15:07

  It would have been much better for our relationship if she'd moved right away, because she didn't move at the beginning.

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