Other People's Opinions: How to Stop Caring About Them Without Hurting Yourself

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What is said here

• 00:01How do you stop worrying about other people's opinions? It isn't just worry. It's something that weighs on us enormously, depriving us of joy in life, freedom, and…Friend / friends · Love · Anger
• 02:11I'll show you important actions and important factors now. What is the solution to this issue? How do we resolve it?Time
• 04:14Remember this. Of course, we can't agree with everything completely, especially things that cross every boundary of our values.Truth
• 06:16Don't judge other people in any situation. Don't judge anyone, anywhere. Judging another person amplifies your agitated worry about your own day hundreds of times, and…Friend / friends · Love · Zoom
• 08:51How did you spend your day in relation to other people? Did you bring them kindness, help, love, and compassion?Friend / friends · Anger · Love

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Individual claims identified in the material: who said them, when, and what kind of thought they express. Each timestamp opens that point in the video.

• 03:06

  Stopping thinking about others doesn't mean getting into a situation where you have to discuss some other subject.

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• 04:14

  Remember this. Of course, we can't agree with everything completely, especially things that cross every boundary of our values.

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• 04:46

  Second, it's important to understand that you don't always actually know other people's opinions, conclusions, train of thought, or understanding.

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• 05:09

  To understand this and truly make sense of it, you need an open dialogue with that person. At the very least, you need to enter a state of freedom and have no expectations.

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• 05:35

  So allow for the possibility, within yourself, that you simply don't know the whole truth.

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• 05:52

  The most important thing to do, the thing that will lead you to incredible growth, is reach a state where the question of other people's opinions doesn't arise at all.

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• 06:37

  There's an incredible practice you can do every day for the rest of your life. It definitely leads not just to broader perception, but also to incredible calm and a resolution of this issue.

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• 07:24

  The practice is to set aside a little time each day and reflect on how you've treated other people throughout the day.

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• 07:46

  In fact, this practice gives a person perhaps one of the most important things they need: love for themselves.

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• 09:12

  Even if at first you can't agree that you should have acted differently, begin reflecting on this every day.

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