What to Do When Someone Tries to Devalue You

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AVAlexander VolchekDevaluationLove, help, and rescuing othersFreedomLoveTime

Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00Being belittled
• 02:02The most important thing
• 04:04Practicing observation
• 06:53How to stop belittling others

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• 00:06

  The first thing to do is take a breath, avoid defending yourself, and not spend your time on it.

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• 00:15

  We'll talk about what you need to do and pay attention to, not to get rid of or resolve an issue with one particular person, but so that in the years and decades ahead, it isn't simply that these things don't happen—you don't even notice they…

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• 01:11

  People constantly belittle others in today's social world.

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• 02:05

  The most important thing to understand is that time is the answer to a situation where you're being belittled.

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• 02:13

  The first thing we fear and don't want to experience is the realization that it will last a very long time.

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• 02:30

  You need to calmly and attentively recognize that you need time.

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• 02:36

  Once time has passed, you'll be able to truly see the causes and effects, draw conclusions, process what happened, perhaps learn something from it, and go on living in balance.

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• 05:55

  So life would prove the truth you've invented for yourself. When someone belittles you, you mustn't confront them by insisting it isn't true.

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• 06:31

  Or trying to bring the person belittling you down a little so you can lift yourself up at their expense.

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• 07:23

  And if the situation turns around, if life actually proves that the person belittling you was wrong, don't shout about it.

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