7 Habits That Lead to Growth and Scaling Up a Thousandfold

AVAlexander Volchek

These seven habits take you to an entirely different level. These are seven habits that change your life forever. When we hear about seven habits like these, it's very important to become aware of all of them, one after another. These seven habits will allow your life to undergo an enormous transformation, to move out of depression, the feeling of your own worthlessness, the world's endless pressure on you, and a lack of money, relationships, space, feelings, well-being, rest, or joy. To move out of these states. Here are the seven habits. Number one: stop waiting for the right moment. Modern people often feel they're standing still, that their whole life is standing still. Life is constantly developing, constantly changing. This is a habit around which many illusions have been created. Through this habit, the people around you will put a great deal of pressure on you. Friends, acquaintances, parents, bosses, partners, employees—everyone will put pressure on you. It's very important to stop waiting for the right moment. No ideal conditions can compare with what you have right now, here and now. I'm certainly not talking about some abstract “here and now,” about loving the present moment. I mean that whenever you feel a time will come when everything will be great, that is an illusion.

Just yesterday, I was talking to one of my employees, and I said to her, “Who told you a good time will ever come for you?” She said, “What do you mean? I'm waiting for it. Surely it will happen sometime.” But she herself hardly believes in it anymore. Whenever you encounter this, let it go. Your life is happening right now. You are constantly growing in scale, at every moment. Habit number two: there is something you believe you can't leave. That is an illusion. Expose the illusion of “I can't leave.” There are states you're in where you say, “Things won't be any different now. I can't leave this relationship. I can't leave this job. I can't give up the routine of my own affairs. I can't leave my life.” You keep living through it, but want to get away from it. “Is there anything I want to get away from right now?” Keep asking yourself that question. Absolutely anything you want to leave, any activity at all, whatever it is: write it down on a piece of paper, make a note of it, and begin observing it. What does that state of observation mean?

Do you really not want to be in this state, this relationship, or this place? In fact, something else is interfering with your life, and something else is what you dislike. Someone very close to me strongly dislikes America. She lives in America and talks about it all the time. But if you really look inside, there is another reason she wants to leave America and run away. It has nothing to do with America. It is running away from yourself. Then there are situations where you want to leave and can leave a drinking crowd, friends who drive you out of your mind, or a job where bad things are happening. That needs to change. Many people stay in destructive surroundings out of fear: “I need this. Otherwise, I'll be lost. There won't be any other way.” Again, sometimes that really is the case. But very often, you cling to a false source of support because you're afraid to exchange your current life for a new one. If the people around you are deteriorating, if the people around you are falling apart, very often you simply need to leave that environment. But once again, before leaving it, you need to dismantle the illusion that you cannot do so. That habit gets you nowhere.

Habit number three: catch the moments when you're living someone else's life. Social media has, of course, changed every space completely, and today we absorb enormous amounts of information about other people's lives. We absorb so much that we begin to merge with them and live those lives. It isn't only social media that does this; TV series do it too. There's simply so much of it now that it looks completely normal. It's very difficult to distinguish where I'm simply observing and where I'm actually living through it. It's remarkable how often a person doesn't realize, simply doesn't realize that they aren't observing someone else's travels, how someone raises their children, or how someone works. They don't realize they're living through these lives. Recently, a very strong person gave me an example. He said that if someone watches a movie with a killing in it, they experience that killing. In any case, they experience it. It may not be real, but they experience it. For many people, this habit takes up their entire life. The problem is that when you're living someone else's life, you block an enormous number of new opportunities for yourself.

This is one of the major problems when someone says, “I'm stuck in the routine of an insane number of tasks and can't break free. I can't stop.” You won't be able to stop, because you're living other lives. It's very difficult to deal with. A question, a key to a huge number of dead ends, concerns this extraordinary habit: living as though you know everything and understand everything. In reality, modern people feel they know everything. It's very interesting. They went to school. Most importantly, they went to school—and it's good if they also went to university—so now they know everything. They know life; they understand what to do. God forbid they're married: they know how to build relationships. If they have a wife, they know how to build a relationship with a child. If they have children, they know how to raise children. If they have a business and, God forbid, that business is successful, they're one hundred percent certain they know how to build businesses. They know everything. I'm certainly not taking away your genuine understanding that you possess a great deal of knowledge. But it's very important to let in the possibility of receiving new knowledge.

When someone was told something in a lesson at school, they simply listened calmly. Or maybe they didn't like sitting there, but they listened and did their homework. Now you come to them and tell them something new that doesn't fit their framework of perception, and they immediately disagree. They disagree because they're used to sitting in their own closed, enclosed world. Their ego is in such a storm that very often they aren't capable of change at all. Start observing every question and situation where you say, “I know how it will turn out.” I'm not telling you to abandon those views. But observation, especially constant observation—if you can keep asking yourself this question—will allow you to be in a very strong state of awareness. Here's something you can do over the next week, for example, and you'll understand everything. Take this habit of thinking you know everything. Tell yourself, “I will keep observing this in all the different events that occur. I will keep observing it.” A week later, look at how many events you actually observed. This is a big, incredibly powerful key. A key that allows you to grow very substantially in scale in everything, absolutely everything: in how you feel, how people around you perceive you, how many events happen in your life, and what happens in your professional work, business, relationships, personal relationships, and relationships with people close to you.

Of course, most importantly, in your perception of yourself. Make a habit of setting aside two or three minutes every day for reflection, for short pauses. What am I doing right now? Where am I right now? Am I aware of what's happening, or have I simply fallen into a routine? Most of a person's problems arise because they aren't able to remain aware. Most of a person's problems are connected with their inability to remain constantly aware, constantly aware. This is very easy to test for yourself. You are definitely, one hundred percent, not an aware person. Set yourself the task of remembering a particular question every thirty minutes throughout the day. That's all. At the end of the evening, see whether you did it or not. It's such an easy task.

Or not. It's such an easy task. All you have to do is remember what was happening twenty or thirty times. You'll see that you won't do it. I can tell you that I hardly know... I probably don't know a single person who can do it. Without an alarm. Without an alarm! You can write it here on your forehead, write it on your hand, wear special clothes. You can do all of that. But don't set an alarm. Try to enter this state of awareness every thirty minutes. You can give yourself a margin of five minutes either way, because it's normal to be a little off—or ten minutes either way; it doesn't matter. You can remember more often, but not less often. In absolutely everything you do, regardless of what it is. Except when you're asleep. It's an incredible habit, an incredible habit. What should you do and observe as a habit? This is point number six: in your professional work or business, understand and look at exactly whom you're with every day. Why do I single out professional work or business as a separate habit for extraordinary development? Because we spend an enormous amount of time on it. Modern people spend an enormous amount of time at work.

When I say to bring seven habits into your life, I mean your whole life, not just the time between work and sleep, in the morning and evening. I mean bringing them into your whole life. So one of these incredible habits is to examine your relationship with your partner or boss. What does examining your relationship with your boss mean? There are jobs where you go to work and are constantly in conflict with your boss, constantly under stress, constantly feeling completely unsafe. Because you spend so much time at that job, the stress spreads into absolutely everything. At work, you should feel calm, feel life. At any moment, you should be able to recall any of the habits I'm describing, recall joy, a sense of goodness and beauty, think of your children. What you like, what you don't like. And keep working, keep putting in the effort. Just as, at any moment on an ordinary day, a day off, you should be able to think about work and feel calm about it, instead of feeling that once again you'll have to face a particular person—a person who, unfortunately, very often in today's world puts pressure on you, tears you down, manipulates you.

You need to begin observing this. What can I do within my work? Do I really have sound partnerships and a reasonable boss, or is there a major problem? If you find a problem, I'll explain what to do about it in separate videos. Right now, it's very important to make a note of these seven habits and practice them constantly, make them as consistent as brushing your teeth. Introduce habit number seven: work on your own therapy. It's interesting that in modern society, people often understand personal therapy as going to a psychotherapist or psychologist, taking part in practices, meditations, meetings, or consultations. But your own therapy is a state in which you want to truly study and understand yourself. That's the personal therapy I'm talking about now. It's therapy where you go to a psychotherapist not to resolve a problem, but to get to know yourself more and more. If you go to psychotherapy, to a master, or ask your friend, an acquaintance, or a consultant a question, and your starting point isn't simply making a problem disappear, making stress disappear, depression disappear, bad relationships disappear, but wanting to study who you really are, that is an incredible point of growth, a truly incredible point of growth.

That's what allows you to grow tens of times, hundreds of times, and in fact thousands of times in scale. Any person in this world can grow thousands of times in scale. Any person, absolutely any person—it's very important to understand that. Anyone can grow thousands of times in scale, regardless of age, membership in a particular religious group, nationality, how much money you have, what society you live in, or what job you do. Regardless of anything, anyone can grow a thousandfold, for one simple reason: knowing yourself is endless. The more you know yourself, the brighter, broader, and truly more beautiful life becomes in every aspect. Not emotionally—in every aspect, including family, relationships, business, professional work, rest, absolutely every aspect. Bring these habits into your life. What can you do right now? Take one of the habits I've described and keep it constantly in your awareness for a week. If you do this, you will already expand your perception enormously. Give the video a like and support it. Until next time!