Debt as the Backdrop to Life: What to Do About It

Main subjects

AVAlexander VolchekMoney, anxiety, and financial thinkingAnxiety, stress, and inner calmDebt as the backdrop to lifeStressCouples and healthy relationships

What is said here

• 00:00You have just asked a question many people ask: a lot of people live in debt, so how do you live when your debts seem impossible to resolve? Again, are you talking about money or something else?Time
• 01:18The question is: what matters, having no debt or being in a harmonious state while you have it? Which would you choose: no debt, or a harmonious state?Spirit
• 02:38Or is that a connection your logic has forced together? Or do you have debts because you feel bad?Wife · Husband
• 03:56Better? Where did you live fifteen years ago? In Irkutsk. How old were you? Eighteen. Did you feel better at eighteen than you do now?
• 05:15The question is what thermometer you use to measure your state. The problem is that people do not have a thermometer or a scale for this.Freedom · Time · Wife
• 06:33What accounts for that? Do you really need to sort out the debts, or something else?Health
• 07:49The first thing to do—again, the first thing—is to work on the distress, not the debts. First, remove that distress.Stress · Acceptance
• 09:04No difference whatsoever. What difference would it make to them how many hours a day has? What difference would it make how many hours a day has? That is a problem. A problem with modern human thinking.The Sun · Stress · Time
• 11:24For example, someone should say, “I do not perceive or understand what happens at night, because I cannot fall asleep at the snap of a finger.”Time
• 12:55Look, Sasha, debt in your life is like a natural process, like brushing your teeth. It goes along with you. In your particular life.Wife

Claims made here

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• 01:33

  That is precisely the mistake, because you could choose no debt and end up feeling very bad—even worse than you feel with debt.

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• 03:22

  People do not feel bad because they have a husband or wife.

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• 07:58

  If you do not work through your own state in relation to this problem, finding the cause and a solution is practically impossible.

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• 10:34

  Not everyone can work through their own state, their stress, or something else.

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• 12:35

  If you keep trying to sort out a debt—and notice, I am not talking about a debt that happened to arise and you quickly paid back, but one that is a fundamental problem in your life—

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• 15:11

  Here is another example. We have four children, and my wife and I are fairly calm about what education they will receive.

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• 15:59

  That fills her with a horror that definitely works differently from how it works in me.

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• 16:24

  I use this to illuminate how very different forms of perception exist.

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• 16:37

  Because, from within a bad state, you firmly believe this is what causes that state.

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• 16:45

  You need to look for the cause of feeling bad and allow for the possibility, Sasha, of having various problems in life while feeling endless love for the world, yourself and the people around you, without negative feelings.

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