How to Turn Off Your Inner Critic and Start Living Your Life

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Main threads of the conversation

• 00:00Signs of self-criticism
• 01:34The price of self-criticism
• 02:40Recognizing self-criticism
• 02:57Can self-criticism boost development?
• 03:42The harm of critical thinking
• 04:07“I can't get started on a new business or project”—what to do
• 05:39“I did something great, but I don't feel happy”—what to do
• 07:16Opportunities missed through self-criticism and doubt
• 08:01The “mirror” practice: how you criticize others is how you criticize yourself
• 08:38Shame after a mistake: two states in evaluating mistakes
• 09:48How to work through self-criticism

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• 04:16

  On the one hand, perhaps you're afraid, and this is your inner fear.

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• 04:49

  Whenever you encounter that kind of stopping point, the first thing to examine is whether it's really self-criticism or a healthy state of understanding that you don't need to do this.

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• 07:39

  Is it because society and the people close to you are sending you that message? Is it because you've already been in situations like this and couldn't handle them?

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• 07:57

  You can work through this situation by looking at how you criticize other people.

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• 08:04

  You can work through this particular situation precisely by looking at how you criticize other people.

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• 08:13

  Look at whom you've criticized during the day and how often you've thought that someone wouldn't succeed.

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• 08:51

  If you want to hide, it means you're completely unprepared to face the consequences and take responsibility for what you did.

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• 09:10

  The problem is that in the twenty-first century, people have become accustomed to not taking responsibility—accustomed to not taking responsibility, accustomed to being able to live without answering for their actions, their words, their threats, or their mistakes.

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• 09:56

  be ready to admit that something isn't working for you, that there's something you don't understand.

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• 10:21

  I wish that for you wholeheartedly, because freedom from self-criticism is possible only if you're moving toward genuine development, toward the world's true values and truths, and living according to the laws of the universe.

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