3 Principles of Healthy and Strong Relationships Without Cheating

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Main threads of the conversation

• 00:01Teaser
• 00:46Why do relationships fall apart?
• 01:31Principle #1
• 03:21Action #1 for a strong relationship
• 04:04Principle #2
• 04:31Action #2 for a strong relationship
• 06:11What limits a relationship
• 08:19Principle #3
• 9:15Action #3 for a strong relationship
• 9:57The main mistake in developing a relationship

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• 00:46

  It's very important that we started with what destroys relationships and filmed that.

  Alexander Volchek

• 00:52

  Once we've discussed the foundations of a breakup, it becomes clear what to do so that a relationship can be harmonious and happy.

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• 02:54

  So when you feel that you want happiness, it's very good to want happiness for another person.

  Alexander Volchekcause

• 03:49

  The second thing is to understand that any expectations you build around another person are an illusion and manipulation, and will always lead to a problem.

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• 06:20

  That greatly limits the scope of a relationship. Any ideal, any effort to see your partner as ideal, actually narrows your relationship a great deal, severely limits it, because the perfection of an ideal always imposes a certain limit.

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• 07:55

  Remember that if you say your partner has changed and you don't like it, then you yourself are the one who is very strongly…

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• 09:42

  Yet when problems arise, a person says, “You've changed. That's why everything went wrong between us.”

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• 10:19

  Someone who says, “We'll develop together by going away and taking ayahuasca together. We'll do it together because we're going to develop.”

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• 10:48

  So many problems arise in relationships because, at the beginning, someone does things for the other person to avoid losing the relationship.

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• 11:00

  You drink alcohol for a year, or spend a year supporting the other person's behavior. For example, a man comes home, doesn't say hello, and says, “I'm tired, so I'm not going to say hello.”

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